No children invited.. PLeas Help!!!!

jamlynlaw

My fiance and have a very large guest list without children on the list. We both come from large families and we have decided to only invite our nieces and nephews. That alone is 15 kids!! We are planning on inviting cousins that are 16 and older, but that is it. Does anyone have a saying or poem we could possibly put on our save the dates????

lauralaur

No need to put a saying or poem on the Save the Dates. Just address them specifically to those invited. If anyone mentions they are bringing their child, and the child is not invited, call them and explain that the invite is for specific people.

dsouldiva

As pp's have mentioned you can make it obvious by addressing the Invites to only those invited and to double up on that write the RSVP with names in.  The fact there's no space to write in little daisy's dietary requirements "should" serve as a patently obvious sign she's not invited."should" = be prepared to make some phone calls to those that add their kids in

kmmssg

Ditto everyone else.  There is also something else you can do. In the months running up to the last DD's wedding (which was a no kid deal) I made sure to weasel that little fact into any weddiing convo with family and friends.  There were no surprises as far as guests not realizing their kids weren't invited because they had heard the conversation.  It was done tastefully and not in a "your brats can't come to the wedding" tone. DD's biomom is one of 7, her stepdad is one of 10, and DH is one of 7.  Just including cousins would have meant they would not be able to invite any of their friends.

kelmcgee

I did the same thing.  We only put the peoples name on the invite and yet most of the responses still came back with kids on it.  I emailed all of the people and said that there was no room for the kids.  All were ok with it.  My parents also talked to all their siblings and told them no kids to spread the word.   I still find out this morning that 1 couple still thinks that they are bringing their daughter but hopefully that is taken care of now. ( I resent her the email for the 3rd time)

aerinpegadrak

If people are going to be offended by something, putting it into cheesy couplets isn't going to help matters.  Unless you can tell me--without cheating--what trochaic hexameter is, just say no to wedding poetry.

Leah&Christian09

You don't need to specify anything on the STD.  Just address it to those invited.  You can spread that it is an adults only event by word of mouth if you don't think people will get it.  Also, if people are travelling, you can list numbers for local nanny services on the website to tip people off. I urge you to reconsider inviting 15 nieces and nephews.  Most of your guests aren't going to realize that those 15 are your nieces and nephews, and that is too many for you to be really close to.  People are just going to see that you excluded their kids, but all these other kids were invited. If it were just one or two, it would make sense, but with 15, not really.  If you want to do adults only, do it all the way.

mrs*macklin

We just made sure we addressed the envelopes of the invitations specifically to those invited. We also spread the word by mouth - just so people wouldn't be totally offended or caught off guard. We also put it on the bottom of the wedding invite "Please no children 14 and under" ...

tracy_k

I have this sentence on my wedding website and will also include it on the reception info card... I sent out email save-the-dates on Monday and haven't heard a peep of protest from any of my friends with kids: Because our wedding will be an evening ceremony and later reception, we will not be able to accomodate children at either the ceremony or the reception. We hope you understand!

duckie1905

Putting "adults only" on anything (even if it is in a cute poem) is innappropriate.  Address correspondence to those that are invited.  If children are added call and say "I'm sorry, we can't accomodate your child but we hope to see you there!" Done and done.

anitascrewdriver

Our wedding is adults only and im just putting (21+, no minors please)...it makes it sound like its some legal open bar issue and not a personal choice..

jenn.daniel

Make sure you tell all of your friends who don't have kids that children are not welcome. They won't be offended. Especially tell your gossipy friends. Depending on whether or not you usually conspire with them, you can even ask them to bring this up with people who have kids. They can do your dirty work for you!

dsouldiva

Putting "21+ no minors please", is actually quite rude and isn't the best way of dealing with this. You should just address the invites to those invited and explain to people that you are unable to accomodate children under 16 due to guest list/budget constraints.

tracy_k

I don't find it rude at all. To each her own.

aquariusdnb

Hi, I don't want to come across as sounding rude but you can not put on your inviations children are not invited. You will however put on the invitations how they are addressed for example to a family that has children you will write Mr & Mrs. so and so. If you want children to attend you would write Mr. & Mrs so and so and Family. I hope this helps. This has been a discussion and this is the most appropriate and respective way to approach it. Just remember you may have people mad that some children are there and others are not. So be prepared. Again it is YOUR wedding. Enjoy the rest of your planning.

emme25

We ran into this same prob and I found a way to word the response cards.  I just refused to put 'no children' on the invites but our response will be something like We have 2 seats reserved in your honor...etc you know and then the whole Mr Mrs whatnot declines or accepts.  HTH. Just change the number to how many guest in that household you are inviting.  If there are 5 in the family and only 2 seats reserved they should get the hint and will prob call you if they are confused.