Thriller

c&d4eva

Back Story: FI has been obsessed with THriller since he was a kid.  His family dedicates it to him whenever we are anywhere together, he knows a lot of the moves.Fast forward--He wants us to cut our first dance in half and break out into a fast song-- it is more of our personality and we like dancing together. I suggested Can't Touch This (I like to break it down Hammer style) but  he really wants to do Thriller cause it's been such a big part of his life. It means a whole lot more to him, so I have no problem doing it.  He wants to get the BP involved.  a few things:Our BP is a little spread out and we live in VA--it would be hard to practice.I'm nervous about learning the moves!I do not want to coordinate anything! I have enough on my plate and while I'm open to doing the suprise dance, I don't want to be in charge of it (but I know I would have to take a lead in the planning)I'm REALLY nervous about learning the moves.  FI is a MUCH better dancer than me!  While I think some of our BP would be into it (about 2/3), the others would not be. So...should I try to convince him to just let it be the 2 of us?  That's what I'm leaning towards doing. Or should I really try to jump on board and get our BP to do it with us?  (Still not forcing anyone and giving them the option to do it or not).What do you guys think?  I really do not want to add choreographer to my list of wedding planning duties!

amy052006

I love you IRL and on the interwebz.  I wouldn't ask your BP to do this.  Even if they opt out, they will feel weird being known as the ones that opted out.

larrysdarling

Meh, not into it. Sorry. Like ribbon wands and cupcakes, I'm over this trend.Have the DJ play the song later in the night when everyone is juiced up and enough people will do it on their own.

c&d4eva

Amy--I know.. FI is semi-obsessed with this and I'm trying to just convince him to do it with just us OR to change it to something less choreographed. 

c&d4eva

LD.. that also ran across my mind and I also kinda feel like Thriller (out of all of them) is played out.. but it  really seems important to him and he really wants to do it.  Also, although it's been seen on the internet, we haven't really seen it in real life. As many of the details were not important to him at all, I like to do what I can to get what he wants in there. 

amy052006

C, i'd tell him if it is that important to him, here is everyone's email address, and he needs to email them all himself to ask, organize the rehearsal, etc.  Let him take the ball with this and run if he really wants to.

kpenne01

Maybe you could tell him that if he wants the BP involved than you'll help him, but he needs to take the lead with chreographing and scheduling rehersals.  If it's really that important to him, then he needs to step up.

larrysdarling

I hear ya on that. Thinking back though, our first dance was so nice and it was such a sweet moment for me. You get very few moments on your wedding day where you're alone with your new husband. I felt like even though there were a lot of eyes on us we were completely alone out there. I would not have wanted to interrupt that time to break out into a fast dance.  Is he willing to compromise and maybe do it later in the reception? And also, if he wants to do it why can't he get the ball rolling on it? I'm sure you have enough to do.

DBean00

Luckily Thriller is a VERY easy dance to learn as long as you narrow it down to about 6 different moves.  For example the movie "13 going on 30"  they didn't do the ENTIRE dance but narrowed it down to 6 moves.  It also helps if you pick the 6 moves that are easily recognizable.We did this my senior year in high school for homecoming and majority of the guys learned it an hour before so NO WORRIES.I think its great your FI would even consider this.  Whenever I mention something like this mine runs to the other room and thinks I'm nuts.Also it would be AWESOME if your entire wedding party did it.

c&d4eva

I did tell him he had to get it started, he texted a few of our friends already and so far, everyone has said yes.  But the logistics is still what bothers me about getting this whole thing started.  And yes, I have WAY too many other things to worry about then this.  I'm going to attempt to convince him to keep it to just the 2 of us OR to do the dance later in the night--that was a good suggestion LD!

rumdrinx

 For example the movie "13 going on 30" ....We did this my senior year in high school for homecoming ......key excerpts from post above

c&d4eva

More suitable for a prom than a wedding, Rum?  I tend to agree, though I always loved a good dance sequence, but like I said.. FI really likes the idea. The sheer planning behind it could make him back off the idea though.. we'll see. 

rumdrinx

yeah i think it was done well about 5 yrs ago at that wedding, and i agree with LD re the choreographed dances being passé.there is a fine line between these dances being childish or fun.IMO they all belong in high school now, but really, you shouldn't care about my opinion.FTR, i am not talking abotu someone learning a fox trot or waltze or samba or to a favorite piece of music.  that stuff is great.

CleverEuphemism

How about you do it later in the night and have a dance line during it?  I don't know the technical term, but when the guests line up in two lines and everyone takes turns doing a crazy dance down the middle of the two lines?  Then everyone can bust a move and will remember the song as well.