Special drink only for me???

holovach1

My FI wants an open bar. He drinks beer as well as most of his friends and most of the rest of his family drinks wine so I figured that a beer and wine bar would work.....except I drink niether. We are providing the alcohol and figured it's open bar till it's gone. My friends are heavy drinkers and love liquor but drink beer as well if it is all that is offered. I drink one particular mixed drink only. Would it be rude to have the bar tender keeps ingredients for my mixed drink and only make it for me or should I provide the option for others to have it as well? I'm just worried that if I give the option by the end of the night there will be none left for myself.

trix1223

Yes, I think it would be rude.  Think of this way:  would you offer your guests chicken nuggets and fries while you ate prime rib because you don't like chicken nuggets?If you don't like what you're serving all your guests, drink a soft drink or water instead.

lyndausvi

Personally I find it a little odd.

I <3 Seabass

It's not like you just want a different type of beer or wine that you could discretely hide. Having your own mixed drink when everyone else can only drink beer or wine is pretty obvious and I wouldn't do it. Personally I would provide the option for everyone. If you want to limit the amount of people who drink it and how fast, maybe have waiters walk around with pre-made glasses instead of having people being able to order it at the bar.

Leah&Christian09

If it were something discrete that no one would notice, NBD, but people will notice that you have a mixed drink and they can't get one.  Also, I can tell you from my own wedding, I had several drinks, but I don't think I ever actually went to the bar.  Friends were bringing me drinks, the staff would offer, etc.  You can make this particular drink your signature drink, and then serve beer/wine/signature drink, and get enough of this drink for everyone.  You don't have to have totally open bar. 

holovach1

That sounds like an idea, My biggest worry is that most of my friends drink liquor straight so I need to make it clear to the bar tender that it is to go into the drinks instead. My FI wants to have alot of different options but I was figuring that mabey I could do 2 or 3 signature drinks with the beer and wine. Thank you all for your input.

laurening

Yeah, it's rude. You could always keep a couple mini bottles in your bag under the table and privately add it to your soda.

holovach1

My friends keep talking about doing that themselves.

aerinpegadrak

I would see about adding this particular drink to your bar menu.  Your guests would likely see you drinking your drink, try to go to the bar and order it, and be really miffed to discover that they only have enough for you.We're doing beer and wine, and possibly adding one or two martinis to the mix.  If we add the martinis, they'll be available for everyone.You know, I wasn't a beer person until FI took me to a beer tasting.  They taught the particulars of the process, why it tastes the way it does, how you can tell what sort of flavors you're going to get, that sort of thing.  Now I love it, I'm a total craft beer snob.  Maybe you're just not drinking the right beer?

holovach1

I spent way to much time in a Brewery a few years back now the smell makes me gag. And I don't like the taste of alcohol at all I just drink for social ocassions with friends. And the drink I have is pinapple juice with just a little Parrot Bay Coconut rum so I taste no alcohol at all.

aerinpegadrak

Rum and pineapple juice should be pretty cheap to provide, even in bulk.  You could definitely add that as a signature drink, that way you have what you're comfortable drinking and you won't offend anyone.

Leah&Christian09

With pineapple and rum, you don't have to worry about it going flat, so you could have the bartender mix it up in pitcher ahead of time like a punch and keep the extra bottles out of sight.  If people don't see the bottles, they won't ask for shots.

holovach1

That's a really good idea. I hadn't thought of that. Thank You.

megk8oz

I went to a wedding last year where they served beer, wine, and then 2 mixed drinks (The bride and groom each got to pick one), I know one was the Bahama Mama (I had many of those, lol) ... and I honestly can't remember the other one, but there were definitely 2. They posted a little "menu" next to the bar. If you buy liquor in bulk, you'd be surprised how much you could get to actually pull something like this off for just $200/$300 (Trust me, liquor is WORTH the expense). Everybody loved it.

hollieheidi

Why don't you offer a bar menu and guests can order "The Bride" - your drink or "The Groom" - his beer and then you can also have a variety of other beer and wine.  Also, while we're having a variety of mixed drinks our bartender is aware that he can ONLY serve what's on the menu and if caught otherwise or serving shots he won't be paid. 

AKatharine

You can specify no shots. Many reception halls/vendors/banquet/wedding reception locations do not allow guests to take shots.

Lasairiona

It comes across as elitist. There are plenty of people who don't like beer or wine and will see you with your mixed drink and will be upset if they can't get the same thing. A proper host/ess makes sure there is more than enough of everything to go around to all the guests.

banana468

Instead, why not do as PP suggested and make that a signature drink?Anytime the bride and groom are getting preferential treatment or better stuff than the rest of the guests, it comes across as their reception having a 'class' system.