Father/Daughter Dance

insecy

My father passed away and I'm having a hard time deciding whether or not I should have a dedication song to him or just forget it all together.. My 3 brothers are walking me down the aisle. Do I dance with each of them?? Appreciate any advice..

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danieliza1127

I wouldn't dance with all 3 brothers.  Not to be insensitive, but your guests will get really bored watching that many "special dances".My friend's father had passed away so at her wedding, for the father/daughter mother/son dance, she danced with her FI's dad while he danced with her mom I think.  You could dance with his dad, or one of your brothers, or an Uncle you're close with, or you can just skip the whole thing.  It's really up to you.  Your guests won't care.

umsldispatcher

you could always dance with your mom too. i know its not the traditional father/daughter dance but if you have 3 brothers you may not want to do all 3 or you could split the dance between the 3 of them. then you dance with the bothers who walked you down the isle but it wasnt 3 different dances.

hecallsmecat

I have a similar problem. My father passed away, but I don't really have any brother/uncle types to fill in. I was thinking of having a fast song played in honor or my father (he love "walk of life" by the dire straights, it's kind of a joke in our family) and have everyone dance.

Knottie28390819

Splitting the dance between your three brothers (and Mom) could be an option.  I'm in a similar situation, my father passed away quite a while ago, and personally the tradition would be too emotional for me so I'm going to skip it and just let my groom dance with his mom.  I've been to weddings where it has had very sad moments of remembrance and I think a wedding should be about the happiness in your life!!

brookeroo

I have a friend who's mom died of cancer a few months before she got married. As wedding favors they gave out those rubber cancer bracelets in rememberance of her and the whole bridal party wore them. The bride and groom danced to a song and during the dance all the guests held their arms up swaying their arms with the bracelets on. While they were dancing they turned and she looked up and saw them all... It was very moving.

She held her arm up for the rest of the song too but everyone was happy. Its obviously difficult sometimes but it's doesn't take away from the day.