So my FI and I are getting married in a few weeks and we STILL can't figure out what to do for our parent dances.
FI and I are dancing to "You and Me" by Dave Matthews Band. So that is all set.
Anyway, my relationship with my father is, well odd. He has a MH diagnosis and is in recovery but is very stable now with both. My parents had a very difficult marriage and after they divorced I stopped visiting him because he was quite difficult to deal with. Well after 6 years of not seeing him we have been working on things for the last 7 years, but in a very unspoken way. I don't think he even realizes or remembers the things he did (manic states can cause people to forget their actions), which on the overall scale of things is not horrible, but enough to make you have a not-so-good relationship with your father.
So, I don't want a spotlight dance with him but my FI said he wants to dance with his mum. Our compromise is doing only our dance as a spotlight before dinner. Then during the dancing portion of the reception he would dedicate a song to his mum and ask everyone to join them on the dance floor. I am 50/50 on if I want to do this with my father but it is an option...Sometimes I think I want to and sometimes I'm totally against it.
Or we could just skip both and just make sure he has the opportunity to dance with his mum and if I end up dancing with my dad then fine...FI doesn't even have a song picked out and we're almost 2 weeks away.
I have a song picked out "daughters" by John Mayer...my friend is a DJ and will cut the second verse out (not at all appropriate for a father daughter dance...but uh rings kind of true for our situation!) and make it about 2 min long. I would have it on hold if I decide to dance with him but I don't want it to come down to the last minute....How Stressful.
Thoughts????