Be a Rock Star at my wedding??

Bornaleo819

I absolutely LOVE Christina Aguilera!!! I was thinking....this is totally just a thought and I doubt I would have the guts to do it but I was wondering if it would be a crazy move to perform at my wedding reception!!! What if I got on stage and performed "Ain't No Other Man", believe me I can't touch her high notes but I don't think I would sound like the clowns on the first episodes of American Idol either. I want to do this because I seriously love singing and just figure, its MY wedding, why the heck not right?? Especially since I've seen that show that represents married couples doing crazy stunts like dancing to thriller and such at their reception. Any thoughts?? Thanks much!

mbcdefg

Are you actually a good singer? If not, this could be quite awkward for your guests to have to sit through.

Lasairiona

Many people think they sound great singing when they really don't. Hence why American Idol and its contemporaries exist in the first place. If you already know you can't hit the correct notes, as you mentioned, skip it since it will be awkward for guests to endure. Save the song for karaoke night on a different occasion.

Brie2010

Please do not make your guests sit through such an aural assault.

If you like the song, play it during your entrance.  With the pro singing it.

aerinpegadrak

I flatter myself that I'm a pretty good singer.  Twelve years of choral and private training, participation in some highly competitive choirs, four musicals under my belt...  I've never gotten paid to sing, but I have a pretty decent resume.

But I have absolutely no intention of singing at my own wedding.  Despite all my experience, I still get nervous when I perform, and emotions will already be running high, so I wouldn't trust my voice at all.  We're investigating the possibility of hitting a karaoke bar after the wedding, and we may be doing Rock Band in our hotel suite the night before the wedding (if the TV has the right hookups). 

I wouldn't recommend to professional-caliber singers to perform at their own wedding.  If you're admittedly not professional-caliber, I would definitely, definitely reconsider.  Yes, you can do whatever you want at your wedding, but your guests don't have to like it.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I absolutely LOVE Christina Aguilera!!! I was thinking....this is totally just a thought and I doubt I would have the guts to do it but I was wondering if it would be a crazy move to perform at my wedding reception!!! What if I got on stage and performed "Ain't No Other Man", believe me I can't touch her high notes but I don't think I would sound like the clowns on the first episodes of American Idol either. I want to do this because I seriously love singing and just figure, its MY wedding, why the heck not right?? Especially since I've seen that show that represents married couples doing crazy stunts like dancing to thriller and such at their reception. Any thoughts?? Thanks much!
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]
How about just having the DJ play it at the reception and you dance to it instead? You can sing along to your husband while you're dancing if you want.  Your wedding probably isn't the best place to have a karaoke moment.  And...it's not YOUR wedding; it's yours and your FI's.

Bornaleo819

Wow, I'm pretty shocked at the response. I am going to consider it. My dad is a professional singer and I have until late November to practice. He will let me use his studio equipment plus teach his band the music so they can back me up. I don't think at all that it will be a tough thing to "put my guest through". How horrible. It is my wedding since I will be paying a nice chunk of  the expenses. I don't depend on my fiance and our families are not pitching in (at least not that as far as I know). I am going to practice big time to try to perfect the performance, it's going to be kept top secret so if I choose to change my mind I'm totally entitled to. I think that I could rock the house if I get the right training and have a great band with all the right instruments in the background. Well, anyway, I will continue to prepare and just keep my idea hush hush. Even though I'm not Christina the purpose of this is to serenade my new husband and do something that I've always dreamed of doing, CARPE DIEM - I'm only going to live once.

Lasairiona

Agree with pp that it is also your fiance's wedding so his thoughts count too, regardless if he is contributing financially or not. If it wasn't, there wouldn't be a wedding in the first place since you can't marry yourself.

As far as your guests are concerned, most people are taught to have enough class to not say anything to the couple if they don't agree with it or like it. But that doesn't stop anyone from talking behind your back. So you may never know if they like it or not since they know better than to say anything directly to you if anything goes wrong.

Again, don't pretend to be someone you're not. Nothing wrong with serenading your fiance on any other occasion but the reception is not the time or place to do so.

aerinpegadrak

If you still really insist on doing this, I'd hit a karaoke bar with it before your wedding.  As with wedding guests, the bar patrons will likely be too polite to say anything negative about it--but the enthusiasm (or lack thereof) should give you an idea of what your guests will REALLY think of the performance.  I know I've sat through several rounds of karaoke that made me wish I could jam glass into my ears, but I still applauded at the end.

[Deleted User]

As a guest, I would feel really uncomfortable if I had to watch something like that. Unless you are an amazing singer (and even then, maybe not), it would seem really lame and I would be embarrassed for you the whole time.

mbcdefg

So why did you bother asking for our thoughts and wasting people's time with responding, if all you wanted was 100% validation that this is a fantastic idea and you were going to do it no matter what we said?

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]So why did you bother asking for our thoughts and wasting people's time with responding, if all you wanted was 100% validation that this is a fantastic idea and you were going to do it no matter what we said?
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]


^THIS

Try being a bride, that's what the day is all about

Bornaleo819

For the record, my fiance thinks it's a great idea since he's heard me and he's a dj himself so he will be playing/performing himself at the wedding. I can't believe how negative all the comments are, I come from a family of musicians and passionate souls, everyone in my family is supportive and thinks it would be fun and a great idea. I have NEVER been to a karaoke bar where people sounded decent or nice (which I have heard a few) and still was "uncomfortable". That's so sad. Just because we ourselves have nerves and fears of being on stage doesn't mean we should discourage others from doing so. I haven't made the "100%" decision to do it, I just know I want to try. So basically weddings should be traditional, predictable, and safe? No way. Lots of people opt to do unique things at their weddings and are left with many memories to share with their family (most recently I read about a couple that did a Peter Pan wedding). I WOULD LOVE to know what you mean about trying to "be a bride". What does that mean?  Our day is ours and that's why we plan it the way we want it to be. I hate that I'm defending this idea of mine, I thought it would be fun, period. I guess the thought of doing a 4 minute performance to express my love is just too much for the general public to handle.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]For the record, my fiance thinks it's a great idea since he's heard me and he's a dj himself so he will be playing/performing himself at the wedding. I can't believe how negative all the comments are, I come from a family of musicians and passionate souls, everyone in my family is supportive and thinks it would be fun and a great idea. I have NEVER been to a karaoke bar where people sounded decent or nice (which I have heard a few) and still was "uncomfortable". That's so sad. Just because we ourselves have nerves and fears of being on stage doesn't mean we should discourage others from doing so. I haven't made the "100%" decision to do it, I just know I want to try. So basically weddings should be traditional, predictable, and safe? No way. Lots of people opt to do unique things at their weddings and are left with many memories to share with their family (most recently I read about a couple that did a Peter Pan wedding). I WOULD LOVE to know what you mean about trying to "be a bride". What does that mean?  Our day is ours and that's why we plan it the way we want it to be. I hate that I'm defending this idea of mine, I thought it would be fun, period. I guess the thought of doing a 4 minute performance to express my love is just too much for the general public to handle.
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]

You know what?  Do what you want.  We're not coming to your wedding so whatever.  Is that what you wanted to hear?

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Wow, I'm pretty shocked at the response. I am going to consider it. My dad is a professional singer and I have until late November to practice. He will let me use his studio equipment plus teach his band the music so they can back me up. I don't think at all that it will be a tough thing to "put my guest through". How horrible. It is my wedding since I will be paying a nice chunk of  the expenses. I don't depend on my fiance and our families are not pitching in (at least not that as far as I know). I am going to practice big time to try to perfect the performance, it's going to be kept top secret so if I choose to change my mind I'm totally entitled to. I think that I could rock the house if I get the right training and have a great band with all the right instruments in the background. Well, anyway, I will continue to prepare and just keep my idea hush hush. Even though I'm not Christina the purpose of this is to serenade my new husband and do something that I've always dreamed of doing, CARPE DIEM - I'm only going to live once.
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]

SarahPLiz

my bootcamp instructor did this, but as a joke. SHe is not a singer, but sings with the radio all the time, very loudly. She is supremely confident, and fun loving. She serenaded her hubby with "I Will Always Love You". Her H giggled the whole time. and even got into the performance with her. It was fun and the crowd thought it was funny.

However, this is the same chick who tried out for American Gladiator the morning of her wedding, and didn't tell her H until the honeymoon. They ended up going on the show and she won. I think the performance was silly, but silly and impulsive are characteristics of her personality that her family and friends love, and they thought the performance was funny. Her H actually showed a tape of it at their Christmas party this year and we all thought it was very cute and very "her"

If you are not a karaoke goddess, and are thinking about doing a serious serenade that is NOT meant to be tongue-in-cheek, then get some outside, unbiased critiques of your singing ability. And take their advice. Not everyone is a singer, and there is no auto-tune on stage. Prepare to be embarrassed.

aerinpegadrak

There's a lot that's untraditional about my wedding, but I know that the guests will enjoy it all, even if it's something new for them.

Look, I tell my FI that he's a good singer.  He's not, really.  He's not bad, but has trouble staying on key.  But unless I'm actually working with him on vocal training, I'm not going to give him an honest critique of his skills, because I don't want to hurt his feelings.  Your loved ones may actually think that something is a bad idea, but they wouldn't ever tell you that.  That's why people come here for unbiased advice.

Again, I really don't understand why you posted here.  If you don't want to hear what people think, post to your blog and disable the comments.  Or record yourself singing and post it to YouTube.  Then you'll REALLY see how negative people on the Internet can be.

almmtw2011

to go with the rest of the post.....i have actually been to a wedding in which their was karaoke...terrible terrible night. I understand you may sing well and you would like to serenade your FI or whatever, but i don't feel this is the place to "feel like/be a rock star" i mean do what you want, and obviously you are going to by your other post.
The reception i went to that had singing, everyone left EARLY and no one wanted to sing, or very few..until they had a few drinks in them, and you couldn't dance. I understand that you are doing just one song, but that still 4 mins or so that your guest will have to sit and watch you "perform" ..is that really the point on your wedding day?

MyNameIsNot

You know why Christina sings that song?  So you don't have to.

If you want to embarrass yourself, that's your perogative.  But you've already said you can't hit the notes, so why would you pretend you can?  Save it for karaoke night.

Da0419

Wow, tough crowd tonight...

If you have any reservations about it, why don't you sing it at the rehearsal dinner instead?  That way you could perform in front of your close friends and family, which may aleviate some of the nerves of singing in front of your whole guest list...

lyndausvi

I'm not sure the point of the post?

 Go ahead sing to him, I really do not care.  I'm sure you are AWish in real life so your family and friends would not think twice at you doing this.


psst:  Does anyone else thinks she wants this preformance to hit You Tube so she can become 'famous'??

crfische

How is it a surprise if your fiance and all of your family members know about it?

this is the dumbest, most cheesy idea ever.

Actually, do it. And tape it. And then come back here and prove us alllll wrong. I'd love to see it.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]For the record, my fiance thinks it's a great idea since he's heard me and he's a dj himself so he will be playing/performing himself at the wedding. I can't believe how negative all the comments are, I come from a family of musicians and passionate souls, everyone in my family is supportive and thinks it would be fun and a great idea. I have NEVER been to a karaoke bar where people sounded decent or nice (which I have heard a few) and still was "uncomfortable". That's so sad. Just because we ourselves have nerves and fears of being on stage doesn't mean we should discourage others from doing so. I haven't made the "100%" decision to do it, I just know I want to try. So basically weddings should be traditional, predictable, and safe? No way. Lots of people opt to do unique things at their weddings and are left with many memories to share with their family (most recently I read about a couple that did a Peter Pan wedding). I WOULD LOVE to know what you mean about trying to "be a bride". What does that mean?  Our day is ours and that's why we plan it the way we want it to be. I hate that I'm defending this idea of mine, I thought it would be fun, period. I guess the thought of doing a 4 minute performance to express my love is just too much for the general public to handle.
Posted by Bornaleo819[/QUOTE]

What in the world was the point of your post? We told you what we thought of your incredibly lame idea. You need to understand that your family loves you and will say things that they think will make you happy. How do you think all of those idiots get all the way to American Idol auditions thinking they sound like Mariah Carey? It's because someone that loved them blew a bunch of smoke up their asss and convinced them it was a good idea. We are not going to do that and you should be thankful for the honest opinions that you received.
It's not your Super Sweet 16, it's your wedding, FFS.

banana468

I think you may want to make a recording of what you're doing and play it to others without them knowing who is siginging.

What you're doing may turn out great however you began your first post saying that you can't even hit all the high notes...and "not" hitting the notes sounds really bad to almost all ears.

FWIW, I've seen people signing at a wedding on TV once and at the wedding ceremony IRL once.  On TV, the bride sang to her groom as she walked down the aisle and it was REALLY bad.

And when my friend's MIL decided to sing the Wedding Song at the ceremony, it was awful and even now, almost 6 years later the song makes me snort.

Many people here are trying to make sure that you know what you're doing,  Because at your wedding people may smile and clap but if they're still snorting at the Christina Aguilera song 6 years later, it's a sign that you signing was just not a great idea.


And remember, you are inviting all these people there for a reason and the reception is your gift to them. 

mbcdefg

I would also remember that the responses you get on a message board like this can represent what your actual guests (people from all different backgrounds, cultures, areas of the country, generations, etc.) will think of this idea.

The difference between them and us ... they won't say their true opinion to your face if they don't like it. They'll just talk about it behind your back.

People here have nothing to lose by giving you their true opinion. We'll never meet you in real life so we're not afraid of an awkward meeting with you in the supermarket if we shoot down your idea, and we don't know you so we have no reason to purposely make you feel bad as some kind of personal vendetta. It's just plain, honest advice.

trix1223

Sorry~no validation from me either, although it's clear that what you really wanted as a response was "OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111!!  That is just the COOLEST thing EVAH, and I'm totally going to steal it and do it at my wedding too!!!!!111!!!!!!1!!"

Having saif that, I AM a professional singer, and have sung at more weddings/funerals/concerts than you'll ever attend.  Did I sing at my own wedding?  Nope.  Did I sing at either of my children's weddings?  Nope. 

If this is really for your FI and not for your own ego, you have the perfect venue and opportunity to sing the song for him:  in your hotel room on your wedding night.

 That way it will be a private, personal moment for the two of you, which, come to think of it, is what your intent should have been all along.

danyl87

I've saw a few shows on TV where the bride sang to the groom...and also the other way around.  The groom sang as the bride walked down the aisle (which made me cringe) Lol.  The brides...One sang while walking down the aisle (which somebody already said up there) and totally SUCKED, and the other sang at her reception to her groom and it was actually quite good and the guests seemed to enjoy it along with her husband.  I don't think I would do it..and I do think watching something like that I would be a little uncomfortable and feel like I had to say "good job" even if they did horrid.  It is your wedding (and fiances of course) so you may do what you like...and I wish you luck if you choose to do this.  I think it will either be a hit or miss thing...I don't know if I would take the chance for that miss.  I wouldn't want the chance that my wedding would be remembered for the wrong reasons.

jennylove810

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[QUOTE]You know why Christina sings that song?  So you don't have to. If you want to embarrass yourself, that's your perogative.  But you've already said you can't hit the notes, so why would you pretend you can?  Save it for karaoke night.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Bahahahaha!

And to the OP: Honey, no.  Just no.

Bornaleo819

I am disappointed in the opinions because I thought people would think it's awesome. OBVIOUSLY, I would work with my dad in his studio to adjust the music so I can make it sound damn good. HELLO. Other artists that sing different versions of original hits do the same thing. I thought I would hear stories from others like, "Oh yea, I sang to my wife right at the alter while the sun was setting and everyone thought it was beautiful.", or "I had a Scottish band perform at my reception and I joined in on the performance, what fun!", or "I got on one knee and sang my proposal to my fiance.". I wasn't expecting to hear that guests will suffer or I could embarrass myself. Sick. I said in the beginning that I know I can't hit the high notes so that means I need to practice within a range I can handle. I guess it ultimately doesn't matter anymore, I will know when I'm prepared and if I just can't seem to get there I will just have a fabulous wedding without doing it. Simple.  Only my mom and dad know, it would be a surprise thanks. It's funny how people can be so rude and nasty online, I am so glad I don't have such aggressive natures in my circle. I know my friends and family would support the idea and I plan on throwing a personal, lovely and warm wedding with delicious food. If I do perform I'm sure it will turn out fine and we will continue the celebration.  

Bornaleo819

YOU'RE SICK. Are you kidding?? I never even THOUGHT of posting online for others to see. Wow, you should work for a magazine because your quick to think there's a conspiracy. funny. lol I wish I thought I would become famous that easy. I am so glad I don't think this way, such a close-minded, tacky opinion. That never crossed my mind to post it and "get famous". Oh, I gotta share that with my friends.