No Dancing?

orangehills

Question for you all... we just got the ring and made it official! Now, we are thinking about the big day. We hope to have something small- 60 people, possibly 80. But no more than 80. We aren't big dancers, and for financial reasons, want to skip the dj/dance. We were thinking of having a 5pm ceremony at a small chapel, then heading over to a local restaurant.  There would be cocktail hour, then a full dinner, then cake/toasts. We'd have a classical guitarist playing in the background for background music. I realize that people would leave earlier since there would be no dancing, and I'm ok with that, I wouldn't be insulted or sad or anything.  Most people there would know others, so they could mingle or head home after the dinner. Does this sound like it would be an ok wedding?

We were thinking of doing the same thing, but at lunch, but a lunchtime wedding wouldn't give me as much time to get ready, plus we would have a time limit to be out of the restaurant, whereas a dinner wedding we could have the room a lot longer...

So, what do you think? Does this sound better for lunch, or dinner, or both? Thanks!

shanding4787

I think as long as you're paying for dinner at the restaurant it sounds fine.

orangehills

Oh we would definitely be paying for dinner and drinks and have cake and toasts, favors, guest book... just no dancing

Avion22

There's no rule that you have to have dancing at your wedding.   If you're not into it, then skip it.  What you have described sounds lovely, and would work for either lunch or dinner (whichever you decide fits your timeline better).

However, just something to consider....my husband and I aren't big on dancing either.  We were nervous about dancing in front of people, and weren't looking forward to being on the dance floor all night.  However, our first dance with each other was one of our favorite moments of the whole day.  Everyone and everything else just disappeared, and it was like we were the only two people on earth.  It was truly amazing.  I'm glad we had dancing, and that we got to dance with each other.  Just my personal experience, and it might give you something to think about.

kaos16

I think that you are properly hosting your guests and it will be a lovely reception.  A restaurant's layout could make it difficult for a space for dancing anyway.  It seems like you are going for a certain type of vibe that a dj and dancing are not part of.
I think the guitar player is a nice touch as well.

Peavy

Sounds lovely, and if that fits your style, then go for it.  It would work for either lunch or dinner, whichever suits you best.

orangehills

Oh, neither of us really mind giving up the first dance. But I'm glad you all think it sounds like a good idea! Makes me feel a lot better. I figure, if people really want to dance, they can always head out to a local club afterwards while we head out to start the honeymoon Thanks ladies!

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I don't think it would be bad if you guys are okay with it, however I will say that my brother and SIL did not have dancing at theirs and it was very weird. It made it feel very informal, backyard barbecue-ish (which I think was what they were going for). I myself am very traditional and their non-traditional reception (also a lunch function) was a little too different for my taste. BUT, that said, do what makes you happy