deployed MOH

greeneni

So my maid of honor just found out she will be deployed  for my wedding.... what should I do?? Should I leave her spot open... or see if one of my other maids will step in.. my wedding is in july and she leaves in may.....

trix1223

Take a deep breath.  Your MOH is still your MOH, whether she's here or not.  I wouldn't have anyone else take her place.  That's sort of insulting to your MOH, and insulting to the one you "promote". 

Anyone can stand next to you during the ceremony, and any adult, not just a member of the WP can sign your license, if that's required in your state.  (Maybe have your mom or godmother or someone else close to you sign the license).

Anyone can make a toast at your wedding, not just a MOH.  In fact, at my DIL's wedding, her MOH was painfully shy, so only the BM gave a toast.

And in your program, if you're having one, list your MOH's name, and add a note that says "Currently serving her country in **** (wherever she is).

And please thank your MOH for her service.

GL.

danieliza1127

I agree 100% with trix1223.

klruss

I would have to agree with the others and not have anyone stand in her place, as she is still your MOH, she's just not there.  Also, as discussed above, having her name in the program with a short sentence as to why she's not there is a great idea as well.

My FI's BM passed away unexpectedly about a month ago and he is not having anyone stand in for him and leaving an empty space next to him where he would have stood, as he is still the BM and will be there next to him in spirit.  He is still getting a boutonniere for him as well and will give it to his parents (who are invited).  His name will also be in the program as the BM

Good luck to you and Godspeed to your MOH.

FutureMrsL.R.Allen

My fiance's little brother will be over seas as well at the time of the wedding.  He was a groomsman and still is a groomsman.  His picture is still on our wedding website, he will still be listed in the program, and we did not replace him.