I need help as to how to word invitations for an open wedding and a closed reception. I have a large family, and a lot of church family to invite to the wedding. I want to invite everyone to the ceremony, but only a few to the reception. I need help with wording the ivties without making anyone feel left out.
Re: Help with a closed reception
Host the wedding reception you can afford for all of your guests to attend, or cut your ceremony guest list down. You can have just cake and punch or just appitizers, it doesn't have to be a massive party.
It makes you look gift grabby and incredibly tacky.
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[QUOTE]There's no way to actually do this. I do know some churches, however, have a standing policy that weddings are open and any member can attend the ceremony with the understanding that they are not invited guests. So if you are having the ceremony and everything at your home church, members would be able to attend without an invitation.
Posted by jmp2004[/QUOTE]
This. What you do is not send invitations to the church family that you want to come to the ceremony but not the reception. You can post something in your church bulletin alerting them to when the ceremony is, but you can't "invite" them formally, because ALL invited guests must be properly hosted at a reception.
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[QUOTE] <strong>I want to invite everyone to the ceremony, but only a few to the reception.</strong> I need help with wording the ivties without making anyone feel left out.
Posted by dmitch1980[/QUOTE]
Seriously!? What is wrong with people's mentality and thinking this type of thing is acceptable? Would YOU like to be invited to a ceremony but excluded from the reception?! Think about it... put yourself in the shoes of your guests... Rude, no other word for it.
[QUOTE]I need help as to how to word invitations for an open wedding and a closed reception. I have a large family, and a lot of church family to invite to the wedding. I want to invite everyone to the ceremony, but only a few to the reception. <strong> I need help with wording the ivties without making anyone feel left out.</strong>
Posted by dmitch1980[/QUOTE]
How about this.....:
<em>Together with their families
DMitch and DMitch's FI
Request the honour of your presense at their wedding on
This day of This month of This year
Reception to follow, but not for you, because you aren't important enough to us for us to feed you and celebrate with you. We only invited you so you'll give us a gift, so after we say "I Do", you can get the f*ck out and go screw yourselves, because that's basically what we mean when we asked you to get all dressed up, drive all the way down here, and then leave while we go party with the people we actually care about.</em>
^^That's pretty much the only appropriate way to word this type of invitation. It's rude as f*ck, but so is what you are planning to do, so you might as well go all out and let everyone know from the get go that you are planning to just screw them over...at least that way, they won't waste their time.
[QUOTE]I agree you should not do this. But, i have been to a wedding where some other friends of mine were only invited to the ceremony and their invitation simply said "Ceremony Only". I thought it was rude, but if you are going to do it.. <strong>thats a way</strong>.
Posted by Helsy85[/QUOTE]
No, it's not a way. It's completely unacceptable. You even admitted it was rude. Why would you suggest that to someone else?
[QUOTE] Reception to follow, but not for you, because you aren't important enough to us for us to feed you and celebrate with you. We only invited you so you'll give us a gift, so after we say "I Do", you can get the f*ck out and go screw yourselves, because that's basically what we mean when we asked you to get all dressed up, drive all the way down here, and then leave while we go party with the people we actually care about.Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]
I couldn't have said it better!
[QUOTE]I just simply asked a question. BTW I have been intied to weddings were everyone wasn't invited to the reception. People have different budgets and different requirements. I don't see it as rude or tacky. But hey, you do your wedding your way, and I'll do mine my way. Good luck to all of you.
Posted by dmitch1980[/QUOTE]
You asked a question about something you knew was going to leave people feeling left out... and then when you got the answers, confirming, that yes, its rude and people will feel left out... you are gonna do it anyway?
What a peach you are.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/