No Favor?

ElayneJC

If you were a guest at a wedding and didn't get a favor, would ya miss it? I'm thinking about skipping the whole favor thing. Is that awful?

SarahPLiz

I wouldn't miss it at all, and I hope my guests don't either

tenofcups4me

Depends on your crowd. I wouldn't miss them because they're not done in my crowd. The few times I have gotten one, I've basically just rolled my eyes at the money spent on crap. But I might feel differently if I were accustomed to them and expecting one.

akasper16

No I usually end up leaving them.  I don't need 30 different coasters with peoples names on them.  We are doing a candy buffet and photo booth as our favor...something none of our friends have never done..so I hope it goes over well.

akasper16

ever done* I should have said

kbatchellor

I would!  I went to a wedding and didn't receive a favor because they donated to the local animal shelter.  I'm not saying that it wasn't for a good cause but even a small bag of m*ms are appreciated.  Maybe I missed it a lot because the cake wasn't very good... I think you should consider giving them something to take, whether it be candy, a picture, or a coaster.  A little something.

Lasairiona

No one misses favors. They aren't required and most are a waste of money that get left behind or thrown in the trash.

megk8oz

Favors aren't necessary. I had them, but I'm from a social circle where not having them isn't really "frowned on", it's just "weird". We would have skipped them if we didn't find affordable, edible ones. As "weird" as it is not to have favors, I totally hate when couples give out non-edible stuff that's got the couple's name and the date engraved on it (Champagne flutes, shot glasses, coasters, etc). That usually just sits in the cabinets until I've had it long enough where I don't feel guilty tossing it

But we also skipped the garter and bouquet tosses, and nobody noticed that, so I would assume favors seem even more "trivial".

kbalint

No.  def. No favor.  I am getting married in november, and I was going to have some favors, but after looking at how expensive everything is, I decided not have anything.  I think as long as the guests have food and drinks they won't miss any favors.   It is just extra money that we can use towards a better DJ, food, and drinks. 

Just my two cents.

ElayneJC

Thanks Ladies! I believe I am gonna skip it! We are pretty sure we're doing a photo booth so I guess if I really get stuck in a hard place I can say that the photo is a favor? I appreciate y'all chiming in!

nesskat

I'm so glad you posted the question.... It was one I was considering. and I agree with your conclusion. I doubt we'll be having them either. I know I can find better ways to spend the money.

danyl87

I don't think favors are needed.  We are doing a candy buffet instead of favors..it will be more usefull and people will probably enjoy that more.  And I'm sure you'll get people that say "show your guests you appreciation for being there..etc" but if you think about it, you are already giving them free food, free drinks, free cake, a fun night.  None of which they have to pay for...that's a pretty big favor if you ask me. 

doodles09

we are skipping the favors as well..we figured the money can be spent toward something useful, like a charity. Favors only end up in the trash or left behind at the table

steph43987

We're making a donation to charity (possibly 2 if we can't agree on one).

I hear where people are coming from with not wanting to waste money and also where people are coming from with the whole you have to give some sort of thing as appreciation, like a coaster. From personal experience, if you were a guest and you received a coaster as a favor, what would your first thought be? I know mine was "wow, what's the point in one coaster? they should have kept their dollar". 

No matter which way you go, someone will criticize it. So you have to do what's best for you as a couple. It will be impossible to please everyone.

I don't see a free meal, alcohol and a fun night as a favor to guests. We are inviting our guests to share a special day with us and celebrate with us in a way that we have chosen. Will everyone drink at my wedding? Probably not. Will everyone enjoy the food? Doubtful. Will everyone have fun? Again, not a guarantee. 

While I see the point (you're already spending so much on them), the reality is, having a "traditional" reception is a personal choice, and for the people who won't drink, will hate the food, and have a miserable time- I doubt they think the bride and groom are doing them a favor.

missey7

I'm getting married on July 3rd so I'm doing a firework bouquet (sparklers, bottle rockets, and roman candles). We are getting all the fireworks for free from a family friend who owns a firework stand, so all we have to buy is the ribbon to tie them with. If it wasn't for getting them for free I wouldn't be doing favors. Like many people have said they and so expensive and many end up in the trash. It's not something that is important to me and I don't think anyone attending our wedding will miss them.