Thanksgiving 2013

sunshineangel1973

Hi all!!! My name is Sherry and I am planning on marrying the man of my dreams AGAIN! To Show how thankful we are to have each other,  We are getting married on Thanksgiving Day 2013 (it also helps its our original wedding anniversary).  I have lots of ideas about the ceremony and reception. But could always use some other ideas.  So far I have planned a complete Thanksgiving Themed Wedding.  I want to do a buffett style dinner with all the Thnksgiving fixins.....so what does others think about this?  Please be open and honest.  I could use all the help I can get..... I am planning on doing this all myself.... Thanks in advance.

kaos16

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[QUOTE]Hi all!!! My name is Sherry and I am planning on marrying the man of my dreams AGAIN! To Show how thankful we are to have each other,  We are getting married on Thanksgiving Day 2013 (it also helps its our original wedding anniversary).  I have lots of ideas about the ceremony and reception. But could always use some other ideas.  So far I have planned a complete Thanksgiving Themed Wedding.  I want to do a buffett style dinner with all the Thnksgiving fixins.....so what does others think about this?  Please be open and honest.  I could use all the help I can get..... I am planning on doing this all myself.... Thanks in advance.
Posted by sunshineangel1973[/QUOTE]

It seems your planning a vow renewal, which i'm sure will be lovely and memorable.  The only way you can marry your husband again is if you get divorced in the interim.

ElisabethJoanne

If you didn't divorce and are now remarrying, this is a vow-renewal and making it too "white" will get you flak around here.

A lot of people are going to have strong family traditions and not want to miss those traditions for your vow renewal.

If you have a large kitchen and are used to it, Thanksgiving dinner for 20 or 40 people would be doable by a good home cook with family members who can provide real help.

Summer2011Bride

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[QUOTE]Hi all!!! My name is Sherry and I am planning on marrying the man of my dreams AGAIN! To Show how thankful we are to have each other,  We are getting married on Thanksgiving Day 2013 (it also helps its our original wedding anniversary).  I have lots of ideas about the ceremony and reception. But could always use some other ideas.  So far I have planned a complete Thanksgiving Themed Wedding.  I want to do a buffett style dinner with all the Thnksgiving fixins.....so what does others think about this?  Please be open and honest.  I could use all the help I can get..... I am planning on doing this all myself.... Thanks in advance.
Posted by sunshineangel1973[/QUOTE]

What you're planning is a vow renewal. You can't marry again the same person unless you've gotten divorced first. I personally have nothing against vow renewals when they take place on a big anniversary like 10, 20, etc. years and aren't very soon after the original wedding.

However, I would probably not attend a Thanksgiving Day vow renewal. We have Thanksgiving plans with our families and it's one of the few times each year we see them, living out of town. I would really re-think the date. Many guests will have standing plans and traditions and not want to attend a vow renewal on that day. I have a feeling you'll get a high number of declines.

HobokensFury

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[QUOTE]Hi all!!! My name is Sherry and I am planning on marrying the man of my dreams AGAIN! To Show how thankful we are to have each other,  We are getting married on Thanksgiving Day 2013 (it also helps its our original wedding anniversary).  I have lots of ideas about the ceremony and reception. But could always use some other ideas.  So far I have planned a complete Thanksgiving Themed Wedding.  I want to do a buffett style dinner with all the Thnksgiving fixins.....so what does others think about this?  Please be open and honest.  I could use all the help I can get..... I am planning on doing this all myself.... Thanks in advance.
Posted by sunshineangel1973[/QUOTE]

1) You are not getting married.  You are already married.  There shouldn't be a ceremony, white dress, cake cutting etc.

2) It's Thanksgiving day for crying out loud.  That's terrible inconsiderate to your guests.

kmmssg

It sounds like you are still married but if you divorced and are remarrying please come back and clarify that.

I can tell you I would never attend a wedding on Thanksgiving day.  That is one of the biggest family holidays around and steeped in tradition.  It is also a time when many couples/families are scheduling time with both sides of the family.  Adding a wedding into all of that is not a welcome idea.

If you are truly planning a wedding and not a vow renewal (because you are not currently married) I HIGHLY recommend you choose a different date as I am quite certain you will have a poor turnout.

snuff9861

I'm having a Thanksgiving wedding. And so far both sides of the family are LOVING the idea since everyone is so spread out. They are all using it as a nice excuse to have a sort of family reunion. And for all of our local guests, they can still have Thanksgiving dinners with their families the next day. To say that it's inconsiderate is extreme.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]I'm having a Thanksgiving wedding. And so far both sides of the family are LOVING the idea since everyone is so spread out. They are all using it as a nice excuse to have a sort of family reunion. And for all of our local guests,<strong> they can still have Thanksgiving dinners with their families the next day</strong>. To say that it's inconsiderate is extreme.
Posted by snuff9861[/QUOTE]
That's not Thanksgiving dinner. That's just dinner.

kmmssg

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[QUOTE]I'm having a Thanksgiving wedding. And so far both sides of the family are LOVING the idea since everyone is so spread out. They are all using it as a nice excuse to have a sort of family reunion. And for all of our local guests, they can still have Thanksgiving dinners with their families the next day. To say that it's inconsiderate is extreme.
Posted by snuff9861[/QUOTE]

<div>So you expect all of your local guests AND their families to totally rearrange their holiday for your wedding?  I'm sorry, but that IS inconsiderate and extreme.  Not everyone in the whole world gets that day off, nor do they want to rearrange their family dinners for a wedding.</div>

RamonaFlowers

Unless you were immediate family (And therefore, people I see on Thanksgiving anyway), I most likely wouldn't attend your vow renewal on Thanksgiving.

We deal with enough bullsh!t trying to work out a holiday schedule that gives both of our families relatively equal time ... no offense, but a deliberately inconveniently scheduled vow renewal isn't worth the extra headache. If you want to do a "Thanksgiving" thing, fine-let everybody have their already scheduled plans, and then you host Thanksgiving 2.0 that Friday/Saturday/Sunday.

sunshineangel1973

  I am sorry guess I should have been a little more clear as to what we are really doing.  We are not renewing our vows.  We have had a VERY rough several years. Issues from before we sai I DO to begin with.  We got pressured into the first marriage.   We have worked everything out and are closer now than ever.  

As for the ceremony goes, I know Thanksgiving is a har time for people.  We chose this day for several reasons.  1) Its the original anniversary of our marriage.  2) Its traition for our families and closes friends to be at our house on Thanksgiving Day anyways.  3) We feel its a great day to show our gratitude to bring our families together again.

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]  I am sorry guess I should have been a little more clear as to what we are really doing. <strong> We are not renewing our vows.  We have had a VERY rough several years. Issues from before we sai I DO to begin with.  We got pressured into the first marriage.   We have worked everything out and are closer now than ever.</strong>   As for the ceremony goes, I know Thanksgiving is a har time for people.  We chose this day for several reasons.  1) Its the original anniversary of our marriage.  2) Its traition for our families and closes friends to be at our house on Thanksgiving Day anyways.  3) We feel its a great day to show our gratitude to bring our families together again.
Posted by sunshineangel1973[/QUOTE]


Are you saying that you actually<strong> did</strong> get divorced? Because unless you did that, you <strong>are</strong> renewing your vows, despite whatever lead you to get married in the first place.

alithebride

one more time=unless you're DIVORCED it's not a WEDDING, it's a VOW RENEWAL.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thanksgiving 2013 : That's not Thanksgiving dinner. That's just dinner.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Not everybody gets Thanksgiving off and instead do it on a different day when everybody can get together. It is still Thanksgiving. I've celebrated christmas the day before new years because that's when we could go to my fiances family oot. It isn't the date that's important, but the celebration and being with friends and family. </div><div>
</div><div>Anyways to the Op: Since everybody goes to your house you might have a bigger turnout. Also, most immediate family members will attend. You know your guests better than anyone and if your families are up for the idea then I say go for it. And ignore the people rudely getting on your case for word usage. In my opinion, if you want to redo your wedding, then do it, white dress and all. I would cut a pecan pie though, that's my favorite. Yummm.  

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