Ideas for Kissing Games
Alright, so we plan on having a pretty interactive game going thoughout the dinner portion of the evening. Basically we plan on naming the tables song titles and when that song is played (randomly through dinner) the table can get up and do their funky dance. We plan on only playing a short snip of every table song like about 1 min.. that way people wont have to be up dancing too long.. I'm thinking pretty much by the time they make it to the dance floor the song will be 1/2 over.
Anyway, since we are doing that I am stuck on what to do for the kissing game. I was looking for some "new" and creative ideas if you have any. Right now I am in favour of people offering marriage advice to us... but not sure if that is too much with the dancing going on as well... any thoughts?
Re: Ideas for Kissing Games
And as for the kissing games, that was hands down my least favorate part of my own wedding (FI's family has the tradition of clinking glasses, I think it's terribly obnoxious) and my whole family was asking me later what that was all about because they'd never seen it done before. If there's a kissing tradition that both of your families are familiar and comfortable with, then I would say go for it. But otherwise I would just kiss when you feel like it.
Good luck with your planning!
Glass clinking is extremely common here, but over the last several years it's become popular to come up with other gimmicks to involve the guests more. I've seen singing songs with love, kiss or marriage in the lyrics; I've seen having to make a putt on a small putting green, and I've seen having to ride a tricycle around the entire room. Knowing our friends and family, nobody should have an issue with dancing for less than a minute.
For the kissing game--if people will be clinking glasses to get you and your new husband to kiss, some of the DJs in my area told me about a game that they do. Beforehand, you give the DJ a list of married couples in the room (pick people who won't be embarrassed to play). When guests clink their glasses, the DJ will announce the game and call on one of the couples on the list to kiss. You could do a competition out of it where the best kiss would get a prize (one DJ suggested a certificate, but you could also use it to give away your bouquet).
LidleD - So do you think I could tie my table dancing idea in with the kissing...
Like if they want us to kiss they will have to dance when the DJ plays their table song?
The whole idea of the table songs scares me a little... It all started with me not wanting to number the tables then I saw a similar idea on a tv show. Basically I thought it would be fun for our guests to get up and dance... for a bit. The whole thing will be optional and explained by our MC. Do you think we could get the MC to explain that this is how you get us to kiss? eeek I don't know...
I just wanted something different - I understand it wont be everyone's cup of tea, but it's a little more out of the box than normal. The bridal party keeps saying they like the idea... it will be fun for us at the head table to watch them!
This sounds like the most annoying and least fun wedding ever. Please don't do this.
[QUOTE]This sounds like the most annoying and least fun wedding ever. Please don't do this.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
Ditto this! I would be very uncomfortable if this ever went on at a wedding I was at, and would strongly consider leaving asap. Weddings aren't a time for games, they are a time to eat, drink, and dance and catch up with old friends and family. Games and dances like that will make a large number of your guest list very uncomfortable.
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[QUOTE]I agree with the posters who said to NOT do the dancing game. I would be highly annoyed if I was having a conversation or drinking wine and then was coerced to dance. Please don't do this. <strong>And for the person who recommended asking guest couples to kiss ... don't do that either. No one likes to be put on the spot. Just let your guests eat, drink, and be merry all on their own.</strong>
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]
I posted that idea that we got when we were interviewing DJs, but I wanted to clarify that it's not something that we're doing. We had two DJs mention it: the first was kind of weird and over the top, and it sounded crazy, and the second was more laid back and professional, and I could see it working if you had couples that you knew would like it. It doesn't appeal to us, though, and I don't see why we need any kind of organized/mandatory fun when we're having good food, good music, and free booze.
Just a suggestion for the OP of something that I don't think is too bad. I'd rather give my FI a peck on the lips and have everyone clap than have to do the chicken dance (or any dance) at the table during dinner. Even a minute of that would feel like forever.
When they do this the first time do the following 1) Let the clinking build up a little 2) Stand up 3) Smile 4) Give each other a nice big smooch.
This should give everyone time to witness said kiss and think that you did it right and for the photographer to get a pic.
The second time the clinking starts just ignore it, continue your conversation/eating/whatever. Repeat this step if necessary.
Game over. Guests are happy since you smooched and there were no crazy games involved, and you are not forced into making out every 9 seconds.
[QUOTE]Honestly, as a wedding guest I don't know that I'd be jazzed about either of those ideas. For one thing, I'm pretty okay with dancing but I know a lot of people who won't dance unless they're blitzed. I feel like if you don't have every last person participating it won't be much fun.<strong> And as for the kissing games, that was hands down my least favorate part of my own wedding (FI's family has the tradition of clinking glasses, I think it's terribly obnoxious) and <u>my whole family was asking me later what that was all about because they'd never seen it done before</u>.</strong> If there's a kissing tradition that both of your families are familiar and comfortable with, then I would say go for it. But otherwise I would just kiss when you feel like it. Good luck with your planning!
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]
Honestly, I'm asking this as sincerely and non-snarkily as possible -- does your entire family live under a rock... in a cave... on the moon?
I am just so worried of having a cookie cutter wedding... I thought something out of the box would be fun. I see all your points though... let's leave the dinner portion just dinner and let the dancing come later! I must say, even though I do like the idea of the table songs, I don't want to make people uncomfortable. BUT everyone SAYS I have to have a kissing thing... I said the glass clinking, but I guess that wont do.
Anyone have some ideas? I've heard of people coming up to offer marriage advice for a kiss. OR singing a song or something...
I don't want anyone riding a tricycle or doing the hula hoop or anything.
[QUOTE]Thanks for all the feed-back. <strong>I am just so worried of having a cookie cutter wedding</strong>... I thought something out of the box would be fun. I see all your points though... let's leave the dinner portion just dinner and let the dancing come later! I must say, even though I do like the idea of the table songs, I don't want to make people uncomfortable. <strong>BUT everyone SAYS I have to have a kissing thing... I said the glass clinking, but I guess that wont do.</strong> Anyone have some ideas? I've heard of people coming up to offer marriage advice for a kiss. OR singing a song or something... I don't want anyone riding a tricycle or doing the hula hoop or anything.
Posted by mandy1023[/QUOTE]
So you don't want a cookie cutter wedding, but you're going to do something it sounds like you're not all that enthusiastic about because everyone says you have to? Only do what you're comfortable with and what will give the wedding the feel you want it to have (as long as that doesn't include embarassing your guests).
If people ask what your plans are, tell them you are keeping things under wraps or still ironing out all the details. If someone says, "you should totally have a unicycle and whoever stays on the longest gets your bouquet," thank them for their suggestion and change the topic.
Sometimes there's a reason why things aren't popular at a wedding (example, most people don't like games or singalongs).
Don't feel the need to make your wedding super-unique and memorable. A wedding is a wedding is a wedding to most people, no matter what you do, and people won't remember all the little details so why knock yourself out? Do what YOU want to do so that you remember the day ... and treat people well, and give them the best food and drinks you can afford, and they'll remember having a good time.
Hardly anyone (except recent/future brides or design enthusiasts) talks about stuff from weddings like linens and colors. They talk about how good/bad and plenntiful the food and drinks were, they'll talk about it if they somehow didn't have a seat, they'll talk about it if the service sucked, and they'll talk about it if they had to participate in lame games or annoying singalongs. And they'll talk about whether you were a happy, gracious couple, or whether you were fighting or being a bridezilla or sobbing in a corner all night.
Well clearly I am not in the majority here...but I think that the dancing game is cute.
I've never been to a wedding with a kissing game. Is it a regional thing or do I live under a rock?
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[QUOTE]Honestly, as a wedding guest I don't know that I'd be jazzed about either of those ideas. For one thing, I'm pretty okay with dancing but I know a lot of people who won't dance unless they're blitzed. I feel like if you don't have every last person participating it won't be much fun. <div>
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</div><div> But otherwise I would just kiss when you feel like it. Good luck with your planning!
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]
</div><div>All of this. A wedding I went to last summer had this "the whole table gets up and sings a funny song" thing they were doing and it was unbearable - to watch and to participate in.</div>
[QUOTE]Well clearly I am not in the majority here...but I think that the dancing game is cute. I've never been to a wedding with a kissing game. Is it a regional thing or do I live under a rock?
Posted by Savanna111911[/QUOTE]
You've really never been to a wedding where the guests clink on their glasses with their silverware until the bride and groom kiss?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ideas for Kissing Games : You've really never been to a wedding where the guests clink on their glasses with their silverware until the bride and groom kiss?
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]
I haven't either..... never heard of it until reading this board. Apparently it's a regional thing??
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ideas for Kissing Games : I haven't either..... never heard of it until reading this board. Apparently it's a regional thing??
Posted by NolaBride2012[/QUOTE]
I guess one could consider North America a region...
I have been to weddings where people clink their glasses to get the couple to kiss. I find it annoying. I would find a game where guests had to do something to get the couple to kiss even more annoying. I can also promise you that if we were sitting waiting for dinner and the DJ announced that everyone at the table had to get up to dance when a certain song was played, my husband would be out the door and in the car before the DJ stopped talking.
You don't have to do anything to entertain your guests other than provide good food, good drinks, music and good company. Let your guests be the adults they are and enjoy the evening.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ideas for Kissing Games : I guess one could consider North America a region...
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]
Ziti, sorry you're unfamiliar but there are plenty of places where this tradition isn't common. And this last comment did sound snarky, for the record.
[QUOTE]All you people whining about how you don't want to dance or kiss or Whatever you're forgetting something... You're at a party, the biggest most expensive parry most people will ever throw in their lifetimes. Relax, dance, kiss, celebrate, don't be such a stick in the mud geez.
Posted by Melsie83[/QUOTE]
A good hostess doesn't do things that will intentionally make his/her guests uncomfortable. Forcing people to dance on command, kiss on command, or do anything else "on command" is a sure way to make **some** guests uncomfortable.
My DH doesn't mind dancing at all-when we're on the dance floor with a lot of other people. Make him get up with just a couple of other folks and dance to a song that's not a tempo he's comfortable dancing to, and now you're making him uncomfortable: does he get up and dance and feel awkward and on display, or does he refuse to get up with the rest of the table and feel awkward and on display.
It's not at all about being a "sitck in the mud". It's about being a gracious and thoughtful host.
WOW you guys are harsh!! What happened to, "It's your wedding, do what you want"? I have been to over 20 weddings and 95% of them had kissing games. Mind you, I wouldn't be super pumped over having to go dance in front of everyone...but if you make it OPTIONAL...you aren't putting anyone on the spot who doesn't want to be.
I have seen trivia games about the couple, I've seen "demonstrate the kiss you want us to do" ..honestly that one was hilarious, I've seen sing a song with the word love...not a huge fan, I have seen a giant yahtzee game where you have to roll doubles to get the couple to kiss. THAT one was the best.
Regardless of what you do, you know your family and friends best. If you think it would be a hit, go for it!