Head tables and one opinionated BM

ShakeUpTampa

Here is the thing, FI and I are placing the linen order here soon

We have 16 round tables (one for us) with the guest list we really have no room to stick the bridal party, we could manage but they would be ALL OVER the place.

Originally I was going to do:

Brown Satin on all round tables (a teal overlay on ours)
Both their tables (guys and girls one on each side of ours and are rectangle) in the pink satin (those are our three colors)

1 groomsman is married but no issue as he is also doing some cooking he does not care his wife and teens will sit with other family, all other attendants don't care. This BM (who has no bf but hopes to find one by then) said she would rather sit out in the crowd so she has peopel to talk to for dinner.

How can I utilize these rectangle tables? The other attendants don't have dates or if they do already said they would prefer head table as it is JUST dinner and toasts

So do I possibly upset BM and do our original plan or just let her sit with some people she knows (she knows nearly everyone on my side) and only have my other bridesmaid and MOH at head table?

The only other idea I could think of is blend in bridal party but they would be all over...and use the rectangles to put immediate family, I have no more round tables which is the main problem and it's going to be a full house.

Any advice is appreciated, I see her tomorrow and will try to hash it out with all the girls together but FI is ordering the linens next week.

AdeleDazeem

My sister and her husband had a sweetheart table then sat all the bridal party members with their respective friends and dates.  It was lovely.

If your BM has specifically asked to sit with her date, then I think you should oblige.  No one will notice or care that she isn't at the head table, but she will.  A lot.  And she'll let you know all about it.

skippylouwho

I don't know if this will work for your room but DD had the bridal party table down the center of the room with round tables all around it. The bridal party sat on both sides of the table, rather than on just one. It looked nice, they all had people to talk to and it worked out well.

lyndausvi

We sat our WP with other family and/or friends.   They were all over the room

DH and I sat with the younger members of our WP.

I would suggest a sweetheart table.  Or sitting with your BM/MOH (and their dates if they have them) and let everyone else sit with family/friends.

buckeyesweetz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_head-tables-one-opinionated-bm?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:5Discussion:933d6221-ebe6-49dd-9adf-d2d60309f184Post:c714207f-1d3f-4e56-a02e-2f54a234da60">Re: Head tables and one opinionated BM</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't know if this will work for your room but DD had the bridal party table down the center of the room with round tables all around it. The bridal party sat on both sides of the table, rather than on just one. It looked nice, they all had people to talk to and it worked out well.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

I've seen this done and it looks really nice.... That way everyone can chat easier and dates can sit with WP if applicable.

cac7777

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_head-tables-one-opinionated-bm?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:933d6221-ebe6-49dd-9adf-d2d60309f184Post:be02c0ea-2605-4ef7-acae-78721e6bfbf2">Re: Head tables and one opinionated BM</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Head tables and one opinionated BM : I've seen this done and it looks really nice.... That way everyone can chat easier and dates can sit with WP if applicable.
Posted by buckeyesweetz[/QUOTE]

<div>This idea appeals to me too--I'm toying with the idea of having a "T" shape so that we can have a head table without the awkwardness of being totally on display away from our friends. Thinking about having the bridal party sit on the middle branch of the of "T" so that they can face each other, like PP said. </div>

ShakeUpTampa

Thanks everyone, today when we ended up chatting she said in the end it didnt matter when she thought it over because her date if she has one can sit with her family..the only reason we liked the first layout is due to photos during dinner and toasts..wanting her to be a part of all those photos in her respective spot. In the end I know it will work out so I will stick with the original linen order and  make it work either way, may even go with the pink tables down the center!