Ceremony/Reception on different days

Bistti

Anyone having thier ceremony on one day then getting married on another? My FI and I plan to get married on our anniversary, but it falls on a Tuesday in the year we want it. Unfortunately the years it falls on a weekend day are March 2011 (way too little time) or MArch 2015 (way too much time) so we picked March 6 2012, which again is a tuesday. We are plannign to have our reception the following friday.

Anyone else do this? Any advice? It's just the beginning, only engaged a few weeks. it feels a little overwhelming at the beginning of the planning

aerinpegadrak

Reception immediately follows ceremony.  Just have the wedding on a Friday or Saturday.  I have never, ever understood this fixation with getting married on your anniversary, especially when it creates issues (and a weekday wedding definitely creates issues for the guests).  What's wrong with having two days to celebrate your relationship?

MeaghanandMichael

Ditto Aerin: There is no need to put guests through two days of hassle just so you can fulfill some unnecessary requirement of getting married on a certain day and then not celebrating it until a few days later.

mysticl

I'm trying to figure out why March of 2011 is way too little time to plan your wedding.  I'm doing mine 6 months from proposal to wedding.  If the day is that important to you why not make it happen then? 

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_ceremonyreception-different-days?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:9b5f29cb-1ffc-4bc7-9e43-8b3b119cfaacPost:1fd44eae-6f03-419f-b964-ca90c1b1e1ba">Re: Ceremony/Reception on different days</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm trying to figure out why March of 2011 is way too little time to plan your wedding.  I'm doing mine 6 months from proposal to wedding.  If the day is that important to you why not make it happen then? 
Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE]
My SSIL planned her wedding in five weeks.  It was lovely.

Alyssa0421

Are you planning to invite your guests to both events? Perhaps if you had a very private ceremony on Tuesday (like courthouse or immediate family only) you could get away with it. Please don't invite guests to Tuesday and Friday. I would think that was annoying to have to go to events on two separate days.

I also don't understand the fixation of getting married on an anniversary or a very specific date. We chose our date randomly based on when venues were available and the season we wanted. It will be one of the happiest days of your life no matter what the date is. Why not have another date to celebrate?

Bistti

It's tradition in my family going back about 5 generations to get married on your aniversary. And March 2011 is too soon because I am i college and we do not have the money, or time to plan anything.

Our wedding is private, our immediate family and a very few select best friends.

With everyone else being invited to the reception. My family is fully supportive of the two separate days, as well as my MOH.

I was more asking for advice on how not to create a stir if people are no invited to teh wedding protion.

killersneeze

It's your wedding, so I'd go with the date that makes you happiest.  As a retail person, I wish that Tuesday weddings would be the norm - it's much easier for me to take a Tuesday off than a Saturday!  I would just make sure that you're inviting people to celebrate your marriage (and not your wedding) and that you only invite the people from the ceremony to your shower.

And have an open bar!  :-)

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alithebride

"Anyone having thier ceremony on one day then getting married on another?"
um you get married at the ceremony. you have a RECEPTION after.

if it's SUCH A tradtion wait for another year when it will be convenient for you and guests.

mysticl

Don't invite people to a wedding reception.  Try something like "celebration of the marriage of .....".  You will probably then just have to explain it to a ton of people. 

trix1223

I don't get it.  Our first date was Dec.  Our wedding was in July.  Two dates to celebrate.  I think if the date is so important to you, then wait until it falls on a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday to get married.

As for having a "ceremony" on Tuesday, and "getting married" on another day:  once you have your ceremony you're married.  You can't get married on another day unless you have a divorce in between.

TheCranberry

If you're just having a few people at the wedding ceremony and they are all fine with coming to both, then I think your plan is fine.  I agree though that you can't expect people who were not at the actual ceremony to come to pre-wedding events like showers, etc.

flutgrl1

Just get married the two of you and have the celebration on a day that works for your guests!

mysticl

Everyone, I think the Ceremony on one day and getting married on another was a typo.  If you look at her subject line it is ceremony/reception on different days.

tahern21

I'm also having my ceremony and reception on separate days.  Ours is a Friday ceremony and a Saturday reception.  We planned it this way because of some family issues so we are having a small intimate ceremony and then a big reception.  Most people I have talked to about this don't get upset that they won't actually be at the wedding ceremony.  They understand the situation and I think as long as they get to be there to celebrate they seem happy. I don't think it should offend people if you do it this way.  They are still part of your wedding celebration.

Bistti

Thank you mysticl It was a typo I meant to say having the wedding reception on a different day. Appartently even though there si speel check there is nothing for the stupid mistakes that sometimes just come out in my writting lol

I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one doing to separate things. I like the idea of calling it a celebration instead of a reception,

thanks everyone