How is everyone doing with RSVPs?

arunkumar

When is your deadline and how many rsvps are you still waiting for?

For those brides whose deadline has passed, how long has it taken you to receive the missing rsvps?

What contact method are you using for the missing rsvps? Phone, text, e-mail, facebook? Which do you think is most effective? 

Are you accepting responses through e-mail, text, etc... or are you insisting that guests mail in their rsvps?

If you've tried to contact someone multiple times and you still don't have a response by the time you need to submit your final headcount, are you assuming the guest is not attending your wedding?

My deadline is June 22 and I am missing 22 rsvps (34 people). I have two weeks after the deadline to contact stragglers before my final headcount is due to my vendors. I'm hopeful that I won't have a problem getting all of the rsvps by early July. I just wanted to see how everyone else is fairing with this annoying task

kmdeck26

My date has passed by five days. I plan on calling everyone the weekend of July 30th/July 1st to check

michelle11988

My deadline is Friday. We are waiting on 26 responses for a total of 56 people.... I'm going to be callin non responders on Sunday and into the week. If they can't get in touch with me by my head count due date I'm assuming they aren't coming. My caterer makes a few more meals anyways and I have a feeling I will have a few noshows so that will cover any non responders. This is the one thing that I will probably go into bridezilla mode about.

ajmom2two

My deadline was Friday, June 1. We were still waiting for a ton on that date...like almost 80 people (way more than you, lucky!).  On Monday, June 4 FI and I started calling/texting evereyone we were still waiting for.  If we didnt get ahold of them we told them that they had until Friday June 8 to RSVP or we would assume they were not coming.  We have heard back from all but 3 couples.  We let people call/email/text for this part and did not get back at least half of our actual RSVP cards.  Glad I wasted all that postage and paper!  

littlemoments324

I'm waiting on 29 invitations.  Which is 71 people.(a couple of those are 4-5 person families).  We had one person say they misplaced theirs and just told me over FB...fine...but I do prefer the RSVP itself. Easier to keep things organized for myself.

My deadline is June 23rd. Since that is Saturday, I'm going to wait until Tuesday to contact anyone just in case of late stragglers..

After June 26th, (I may even start on the 24th if I have the day off & have gotten Saturdays mail). I'm going to contact people any way I can. . Those I know who are on FB...I'll have my parents help out with the people on their side...my aunt or dad on their side...and we'll get it all figured out. 

And yes, I'm just assuming they aren't coming.  My vendor prepares for about 5% extra just in case there are a few show ups who didn't RSVP....

arunkumar

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[QUOTE]My deadline was Friday, June 1. We were still waiting for a ton on that date...like almost 80 people (way more than you, lucky!).  On Monday, June 4 FI and I started calling/texting evereyone we were still waiting for.  If we didnt get ahold of them we told them that they had until Friday June 8 to RSVP or we would assume they were not coming.  We have heard back from all but 3 couples.  We let people call/email/text for this part and did not get back at least half of our actual RSVP cards.  Glad I wasted all that postage and paper!  
Posted by ajmom2two[/QUOTE]

Good to know. It does annoy me that I paid for postage and people might not use it, but at the end of the day, at least I know whether they are coming or not. I like that you gave everyone an absolute deadline! I only invited 130 people to my wedding, so it's easier to not to have as many stragglers as you!

arunkumar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_how-is-everyone-doing-with-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:64f8b4dd-4ea8-4756-87cb-fad4bb945697Post:10095cde-6104-423b-adfb-c729bec3ff01">Re:How is everyone doing with RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]My deadline is Friday. We are waiting on 26 responses for a total of 56 people.... I'm going to be callin non responders on Sunday and into the week. If they can't get in touch with me by my head count due date I'm assuming they aren't coming. My caterer makes a few more meals anyways and I have a feeling I will have a few noshows so that will cover any non responders. This is the one thing that I will probably go into bridezilla mode about.
Posted by michelle11988[/QUOTE]

My caterer will make extra meals too. I guess I'd rather pay for a few people that don't rsvp than pay for people that did rsvp but do not show up! That would definitely anger me. BTW, does the caterer tell the bride and groom who does not show up? With so many guests at the wedding, I think it would be hard to realize certain guests did not attend, unless they were very close family or friends.

KatieK501

I'm guessing I have the most RSVP's to go - about 120 (283 people).  We only mailed our invitations out the last week of May, and our response date isn't until June 22.  Quick turn around - I know - but since we sent Save-the-dates, everyone who was planning on coming had already contacted us and started making arrangements.  A lot of the invitations were a formality, since the people had already told us they weren't coming.  I haven't counted them as decllining yet though, hoping they may change their minds.

I have to give the caterer a headcount by June 29, but can add to that until the week before the wedding.  We plan on calling, texting, emailing those who haven't RSVP'd on the June 26.  I plan on dividing that task up between my mom, FMIL, and myself, since both of our parents added a lot of extra guests.

I'd rather have the RSVP but I'll take a call, text, email, whatever.

The RSVP's are being mailed to my parents - so every day when I get home from work, I call, wanting to know how many they recieved. 

colleenm18

Our RSVP date is not until July 1st and we are only waiting on about 57 or so response cards back which is about 115 people. We have already heard from over half so I think we are doing pretty well!

We will start making phone calls a few days after the due date and then if we still dont hear from people by the time our count is due we will assume they are not coming. 

michelle11988

arunkumar I figure I will know by who doesn't take their escort card. I know not everyone will but i can figure it out. Also the guest book will be a good reminder of who came. We will also have only 150 and I think I'll remember who came and didnt.

dramaqueen91087

My RSVP date is the 20th and I'm still waiting on around 90 people. (exact number is in my Siggy) Its driving me insane. Some are people I know aren't coming. Others are people I know are coming. The Best Man and one of my Bridesmaids have still not responded. Yesterday we had 0 responses My plan is to wait until a couple days after the date and then call or e-mail everyone. I hope it won't be to many people. At that point I'll take the call or e-mail as a response but I'd really perfer the card. The only person we excepted an e-mail response from so far was my cousin who is living in Paris. Luckily our final numbers aren't due until the monday of the wedding (so 7/9) so we have a little bit of time for stragglers.

LADY324

Our rsvp is next Wednesday June 20th we are waiting on about 60 more rsvps which is about 30 response cards.  They are straggling in 1 by 1 now.  We are giving people until the 24th then we will call, text, email or facebook message.  We are handling our friends my mom will handle contacting my family member and her friends and the same with this mom.  I need all of the responses by June 30th so we can get our seating chart done and sent over to our calligrapher.

BmoreBride311

Our deadline was one week ago. We are still waiting on 30 invitations (roughly 60 ppl). I think the large majority of these are No's, so I haven't even contacted most of them yet. FI and I are going to split them up this weekend and either call or email them all. We decided for family members we will call them, but for our friends, email is easiest.

Melissa.hylton

When is your deadline and how many rsvps are you still waiting for? May 31st. As of May 25 I still needed to hear from 30 people. 

For those brides whose deadline has passed, how long has it taken you to receive the missing rsvps? I got all my RSVPs in by June 2nd

What contact method are you using for the missing rsvps? Phone, text, e-mail, facebook? Which do you think is most effective?  I used everything. If i contact certain people mainly through FB I used that, If it was FMIL invites then I had her contact them. 

Are you accepting responses through e-mail, text, etc... or are you insisting that guests mail in their rsvps? By June 2nd I was taking whatever I needed. By the point your RSVP date passes you wont care in what form the response is in. We would all like our guests to respond via mail but at that point its unlikely. 

If you've tried to contact someone multiple times and you still don't have a response by the time you need to submit your final headcount, are you assuming the guest is not attending your wedding? I gave final headcount until June 7th. Caterer numbers were due June 10th. There was only 1 party that I could not get an answer from and avoided texts from FMIL. So I knew a few days after May 31st that they obviously were not going to make it because they never responded and still have YET to hear a word from them. 

mekiakoo

Deadline isn't until July 1st. We have about 60% of the responses so far. But they have been trickling in- anywhere from 1-4 RSVPs a day. I imagined it'd be like 20 a day!

It looks like most of our families have responded, it's our friends who are bumming around. In that case since it may be our friends, we'll contact them through text/e-mail, no big deal.

BeachLover2885

When is your deadline and how many rsvps are you still waiting for?  Our deadline was June 1st and we are still missing a bunch.... I don't have the exact number with me and my siggy isn't updated. 

For those brides whose deadline has passed, how long has it taken you to receive the missing rsvps? Well, it will be two weeks on Friday and I don't think we will have all of them back by then! We are paying for 125 guests no matter what and we only have about 105 confirmed. I cannot believe how many people aren't coming. FI was able to ask a few more friends if they wanted to come and FI's stepmom wanted to invite a couple she had forgotten to put on the list, so at least that worked out. I just really hate adding people like that, but c'est la vie. 

What contact method are you using for the missing rsvps? Phone, text, e-mail, facebook? Which do you think is most effective?  Most of the missing RSVPs were on FI's side, so he called or texted the people he knew directly, and then he sent his dad the list to contact his people who haven't responded. I think calling is the most effective because if the person picks up the phone, he/she can't avoid answering! 

Are you accepting responses through e-mail, text, etc... or are you insisting that guests mail in their rsvps? At this point, we will take what we can get! I was so POed the other day b/c I can't believe how many people are SO lazy that they can't stick a prestamped envelope in the mail. It's just frustrating and I don't want to take it personally, but it's hard not to!

If you've tried to contact someone multiple times and you still don't have a response by the time you need to submit your final headcount, are you assuming the guest is not attending your wedding? I think we will assume they are not coming. 

lvissers

My rsvp date is next Friday, June 22nd too. We are waiting on 50 people to rsvp. (Probably about 30 response cards) Sadly most of them are my guests! But since the wedding is 2 hrs from "home" for me I guess everyone is deciding if they are making the drive and staying overnight or not. I'm still waiting on 1 bridesmaid and 1 groomsmen to rsvp. So frustrating! We haven't received any rsvp's the last 2 days either! I plan on calling/texting/facebooking my friends who we haven't heard from on that Monday June 25th. I'll just be getting back from vegas for my bachelorette party, so I will not be in the nicest of moods. lol.

honeybear072012

RSVP date is tomorrow as as of Tuesday I'm still missing 27 RSVPs for 73 people. (Sent out 96 invites to 221 people)  And it might actually be more than that number because I know that there are people who aren't coming because they've told us verbally so I just marked them down.

So glad to see everyone is having the same problem and the same frustration level.  How hard is it really?  I mean we provided them with stamped envelopes, all they had to do was put a check mark and put it back in the mail.

Best non-RSVP is one of the GMs.  Posted the reason in another post.  He's just an idiot and I really think he's trying to find someone to bring even though we didn't give him the option.  (Isn't dating anyone at all)

butterflyjumper1

our RSVP due date is not until June 28th....but we currently are waiting on about half of our RSVPs

It's weird, a few of my mom's friends have emailed her their RSVP but have not sent in their card yet. It still isn't clear to me whether they are even planning to mail the RSVP. It just confuses me that people don't use the pre-stamped card they have already been given!