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Bellydancing Bride at reception?

I'm having a small wedding (70 people) in July, in a beautiful garden! I want to surprise my groom (and guests) with an impromptu belly dance. I have been so passionate about belly dancing and everyone knows it! 

So here's my question; do you think I should buy a white belly dancing costume, or try to dance it in my wedding dress? 

I do not have a dress picked out yet, but if i decide to dance in it, it MUST be a certain type of dress. !:)

Re: Bellydancing Bride at reception?

  • I dislike it when Brides and Grooms "perform" at their wedding -- singing, choreographed dance, or whatever.  It's not a concert, recital, or performance -- it's your wedding.   Even though your guests know you are passionate about belly-dancing, do you think they want to take a break from their evening to watch you perform?  

    Unless the Bride belly-dancing for her husband is part of some cultural tradtition that you subscribe to, I would skip it.  Though, nothing says you can't do a private belly-dance for your new husband after the reception:-)
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  • I'm with Avion on this.  Heck, I'm always dittoing her.
  • I also agree with Avion 100%.
  • Agree with PPs.  It sounds like you're very passionate about bellydance, which is great, and maybe a situation where you might consider hiring bellydancers as entertainers for the reception.  But there's just something so awkward about the bride and/or groom performing at their wedding.

    The one way that I could possibly see this working is if you could incorporate it into your first dance (or father-daughter dance, though I think that would probably be weird) somehow.  The only times I've seen any sort of performance by the bride and/or groom come out cool instead of awkward was in the context of a choreographed spotlight dance of some sort.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_bellydancing-bride-at-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:b8622ab9-e8ca-4ed5-bd28-a0b81af09882Post:449f3dbf-c7c5-4248-af2a-de32cbabccd7">Bellydancing Bride at reception?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm having a small wedding (70 people) in July, in a beautiful garden! I want to surprise my groom (and guests) with an impromptu belly dance. I have been so passionate about belly dancing and everyone knows it!  So here's my question; do you think I should buy a white belly dancing costume, or try to dance it in my wedding dress?  I do not have a dress picked out yet, but if i decide to dance in it, it MUST be a certain type of dress. !:)
    Posted by Texanyorker11[/QUOTE]

    Something being planned ten months in advance isn't impromtu. It would be a surprise for your groom and uncomfortable as hell for the rest of the guests, but not impromptu.
  • Save it for the wedding night.  Guests do not want to sit there and watch this unless it is part of your culture.
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  • Aw man :( I always thought it was a treat for others to see a new art form.. we come from very artistic families! I posted that really late last night, so I meant surprise not impromptu :P anyways! I guess the cons outweigh the pros.... I just youtubed 'belly dancing bride' and a very mediocre dancer was dancing for a while, and the guests were really quiet. Hm... something to think about!
  • In Response to Re:Bellydancing Bride at reception?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bellydancing Bride at reception?:Aw man : I always thought it was a treat for others to see a new art form.. we come from very artistic families! I posted that really late last night, so I meant surprise not impromptu :P anyways! I guess the cons outweigh the pros.... I just youtubed 'belly dancing bride' and a very mediocre dancer was dancing for a while, and the guests were really quiet. Hm... something to think about!Posted by Texanyorker11Gotta be honest, I know NO professionals who are willing to perform at their own weddings. nbsp;That includes singers and dancers. nbsp;Well, I take that back. nbsp;I do know ONE and she is the talk of the company and not in a good way. nbsp;Honestly, performing in any way puts the spotlight on YOU instead of you as a couple and looks very AWish. nbsp;Combine that with the fact that belly dancing is INCREDIBLY sensual and likely to make guests uncomfortable and you have a disasterous combination. Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    This. My cousin's exhusband played guitar and sang a song, one of HIS songs, at their wedding. I'm surprised the church allowed this. He was actually focused on his audience rather than singing it to her. It was pretty awful.
  • Ick... No i definitely do not want to make anyone feel uncomfortable... Thanks for giving honest opinions! I needed to hear that :)
  • It sounds like you have already decided to skip this, but just wanted to add another vote for not doing this.    I'm glad you listened to reason here.
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