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s2bcrawford

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trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_help-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:be886433-f5d6-46f2-aaff-dbe97197fa3aPost:aad91557-4090-4f39-83a1-baea8c32a5fe">HELP!</a>:
[QUOTE]My fiance and i got engaged in june '09 and are planning our wedding for june '11. our good friends are both in our wedding and their 5 yr old son will be our ring bearer. so last month they decide that they've been together for 7 years it's about time they get hitched. my fiance and i were very happy for them and i helped her find her dress cake and flowers, now she had to pick out the ceremony/reception site and she decided on the venu i'm using. at first they were paying for it themselves and my fi and i helped them out (Financially) so they didnt have to hold it in a fire house. now her mother is in love with my venu and tell her sh'll pay for the wedding if they have it there, and now my friend wants my permission to get married there. i don't know what to do. do i say it's cool? even though i'm super pissed/ upset that i've had my venu booked for months and now she's going to use it before me? i'm lost.. HELP PLEASE!
Posted by s2bcrawford[/QUOTE]

First things first:  please take your complete name off the end of this post.  I now know that you're Brittany A. Dugan and that you're marrying someone named Crawford.  How long do you think it will take me to find out more about you?  Internet safety, please.

Now, deep breath brittany.  You don't own the rights to that venue.  People will get married in it before you and after you.  It's not yours to allow or disallow.

And I honestly don't see you point.  If you were willing to help them pay for the venue before their mother offered, why are you now p!ssed that they're using it on their mother's dime instead of yours?  That makes no sense at all.

Bottom line:  your wedding will be your wedding, and their wedding will be their wedding.  You'll have your own color scheme/decorating ideas, and they'll have theirs.  You'll have your own guest list, and they'll have theirs.  There might be a few overlapping guests, but do you really think they'll care that your wedding is in the same place as someone else's?

You're completely overreacting, and completely overthinking this.  Let it go.  Or you'll be the only looking like a silly 'zilla.

abbycobb812

Wow. Get over it.

whit_flem

I have a friend who decided to use my venue and it will be 4 months before I get married .. I feel like she is copying everything that I worked so hard to plan and it's irritating.  I know that it's frustrating but sometimes you just have to let things go.  Try not to let it get to you, just because she is having it at the same venue doesn't mean that her wedding will be anything like yours.  Be happy for your friend and look at it this way - if theirs something that you don't like about her wedding you can be sure to change it before your wedding so therefore your wedding will be better .