Comedian at the reception...?

lmeissne

My fiance and I are trying to add some extra entertainment to our reception. Our wedding will be elegant and traditional (in most aspects) with some twists to make it not like every other wedding I've attended.

I am wondering if would be acceptable to have a comedian perform during a family style, sit down dinner? We want to make our reception fun, memorable, and add some extra spice for those who do not like to get out on the dance floor. Do you think a comedian would be a cheesy form of entertainment and have guests thinking it is inappropriate?

I'm open to thoughts!

QueerFemme

In Response to Re:Comedian at the reception...?:[QUOTE]My fiance and I are trying to add some extra entertainment to our reception. Our wedding will be elegant and traditional in most aspects with some twists to make it not like every other wedding I've attended.I am wondering if would be acceptable to have a comedian perform during a family style, sit down dinner? We want to make our reception fun, memorable, and add some extra spice for those who do not like to get out on the dance floor. Do you think a comedian would be a cheesy form of entertainment and have guests thinking it is inappropriate?I'm open to thoughts! Posted by lmeissne[/QUOTE]


I think you risk offending some of your guests. Comedians are often offensive, even when they aren't trying to be. And your wedding doesn't need more entertainment or a theme. Its a wedding, not a caberet.

AddieCake

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Comedian at the reception...?: I think you risk offending some of your guests. Comedians are often offensive, even when they aren't trying to be. And your wedding doesn't need more entertainment or a theme. Its a wedding, not a caberet.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree wholeheartedly with this. There is no need to add things to your wedding to make it fun or give your guests something to do. We didn't even have dancing at our wedding, but everyone had a wonderful time eating great food and chatting with great company. </div>

GoodLuckBear14

If you are going to do this, the entertainment really needs to be the best.  DH and I went to one of the most elegant wedding in Chicago and immediately following dinner, the DJ announced that children (none were there) and anyone easily offended were recommended to take a stroll around the hotel or the city for about an hour.  Then on this Saturday night wedding, Second City came out and gave a ROTF hilarious performance.  I will tell you right now though that the B&G spent more for this than DH and I spent on our entire wedding.

lmeissne

Thank you ladies for your thoughts!! You gave me some point of views to look at that I never even thought of, especially that dinner is really the best time for people to catch up and talk. 

I think it will be best to find some other, less dramatic, ways of "wowing" our guests.

Thank you for letting me know how you would preceive it as if you were a guest! Much appreciated!

LoveyHowl

I'm with StageManager on this.  My fiance and I are not dancers, but we don't feel left out of the fun.  We love to sit around and catch up with friends and family, have drinks, and just relax.

I'd also add that if you are set on having some sort of entertainment, I wouldn't do it during dinner.  I think it would feel awkward to be eating while a performer is trying to entertain the crowd.  Some guests might hesitate to eat during the show and others might have to turn their chairs around to even watch the show, making it difficult to eat.

GoodLuckBear, that must have been an awesomely fun wedding.

LadyBelle85

We are having a magician. He will do some quiet oneonone magic during the cocktail hour, and then do a show during the reception. It's your day, and entertainment is huge! Go for it.

LadyBelle85

I think people talk about the food afterwards, but in a year...no one will remember the food.

alithebride

personally i probably wouldn't even listen to him as i'd be eating and chatting with other guests.
imo skip it.

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]We are having a magician. He will do some quiet oneonone magic during the cocktail hour, and then do a show during the reception.<strong> It's your day, and entertainment is huge! Go for it.
</strong>Posted by LadyBelle85[/QUOTE]

First get the phrase "It's your day" out of your system.  As soon as you invite guests, it is no longer all about you and whether you like it or not the reception is for them.  You are receiving them as a thank you for attending your wedding ceremony.

Second, grown adults do not have to be entertained and most of us would rather not be treated like we are at a children's birthday party.  Whenever I see games or any other "entertainment" at a wedding (including slide shows, the shoe game, etc.) I take a walk.  Second City is the only entertainment that I stuck around for. </div>

musicalcanadianbride

Your guests are perfectly capable of entertaining themselves during dinner through conversation. So many people seem to want to turn their wedding into a circus show or something... If you have great food, good drink, interesting conversation, and good music you will have an excellent party. 

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]I think people talk about the food afterwards, but in a year...no one will remember the food.
Posted by LadyBelle85[/QUOTE]

People might not remember a specific dish, but they WILL remember if the food was amazing or crappy or there wasn't enough.  If you serve wedding chicken and green beans, yeah, they probably won't remember. But, if you do something different or delicious, people will remember.</div>

OwningAHome1981

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[QUOTE]Thank you ladies for your thoughts!! You gave me some point of views to look at that I never even thought of, especially that dinner is really the best time for people to catch up and talk.  I think it will be best to find some other, less dramatic, ways of "wowing" our guests. Thank you for letting me know how you would preceive it as if you were a guest! Much appreciated!
Posted by lmeissne[/QUOTE]

Honestly, what people will be the most wowed with is your love for him, I promise. I have never been wowed by any entertainment, food, or cheesy photo booth, chocolate fountain, cotton candy machine etc etc. Most people don't give a crap about that stuff- they are not there for that. Your wedding will be fine with no extras- everyone will have an amazing time. I am always the most wowed to see ghow happy the bride and groom are. That's it, that's what it takes for most people.