6 engaged couples at our wedding....

htalvy

We will have 6 engaged couples attending our wedding and I would like to do something to acknowledge them but have no idea what to do.  Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?

Rachel5527

IMHO, I personally wouldnt do anything. This is YOU and your FI's day. They will have theirs too.

ljahns

I agree, the day is about you and your FI. I personally wouldn't want to have attention drawn to me on someone else's wedding day, but that's just me.

If you wanted to do something small, you could have their place cards and/or escort cards read "The Future Mrs..." or "Soon-to-Be Mrs..." and send their invitation addressed in the same fashion.

mgietler76

FYI you should change your SN from your email address, internet safety and whatnot

slwbride

If your wedding will be the first time you've seen them since they've been engaged then I would just congratulate them as you walk around greeting your guests. If you have seen them since their engagement and have already congratulated them then I personally wouldn't feel the need to do anything additional at the wedding.

tlbattaglia

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[QUOTE]I agree, the day is about you and your FI. I personally wouldn't want to have attention drawn to me on someone else's wedding day, but that's just me. If you wanted to do something small<strong>, you could have their place cards and/or escort cards read "The Future Mrs..." or "Soon-to-Be Mrs...</strong>" and send their invitation addressed in the same fashion.
Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]

I like this idea.

lisaandcorey

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[QUOTE]Invite them up for a special dance.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]


Ditto.

I've been to weddings where couples do their first dance and then a minute or two into the song, they invite all married couples to join them, then invite all engaged couples to join them.

futurepivko

what??!!!!!! its YOUR day! do they plan on doing anything for you? probably not

Beachy730

I wouldn't do anything, and we didn't at ours.  We actually also had 6 engaged couples at our wedding but made no mention of it.  They will get their wedding day too.  When we walked around to the tables it was the first time I had seen 3 of the girls so I congratulated them and asked to see their rings and whatnot.  However one of my BM's 1st wedding anniversary was the day after our wedding, and we had the DJ play their wedding song and say Happy First Anniversary to them. 

Good thing we didn't either since one of the couples has since called of their wedding. 

dco324

It is your day, so you are not obligated to honor them in any way.  They will have their day.  If you truly want to then I love the idea of a special dance.  I've seen dances where all couples are invited and then the DJ asks those who have been together for X years to have a sit and you narrow it down so the bride and groom and the longest married couple are left.  You could include the engaged couples in something like this.  

MeaghanandMichael

See, this kind of gives me the warm and fuzzies some one on these boards actually wants to think of others. Rock on with yo bad self OP! I like it!

kirarae

Way too many of the brides on here, I've found, are "all about me".  I say do whatever you want to honor them. Give a little toast to them, have a special dance, have a little "congratulations" sign on the table their at, maybe even seat them all at one table with a special congratulations to them all on the table. It's nice that you're thinking of them. So many brides don't think of anyone or want to do everything by the book. Heaven forbid someone think outside the box and want to do something nice for some of her guests.

KCSpade

I agree. I also find there are soooo many super rude and "you must be traditional" brides on here as well. It's 2010 you are allowed to break the rules and do things the way you want to your own discretion honestly. 

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[QUOTE]what??!!!!!! its YOUR day! <strong>do they plan on doing anything for you? probably not
</strong>Posted by futurepivko[/QUOTE]

But what does that have to do with anything? She didn't say "I will have 6 engaged couples at my wedding and I want to do something for them so that they will reciprocate for me". Who cares if they do something for her? Life isn't always about that.

OP - I think it's sweet that you want to recognize them. I agree with the dance idea.

alyssalowe

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[QUOTE]what??!!!!!! its YOUR day! do they plan on doing anything for you? probably not
Posted by futurepivko[/QUOTE]

This kind of thinking is the same as those that dont give gifts to people because they might not get one back.. its called being NICE, it shouldnt depend on if others are nice back!

I fully agree with doing the dance that starts with the married couples and then the engaged come up. At the end of the song we are having them sit down in years they have been married so the couple that has been together the longest gets a lil gift.. we are ALSO doing escort cards with "the soon to be...."

peanutty2

i don't know if i'd like this idea... it's your day... and i know that as an engaged couple i would feel uncomfortable being called out or acknowledged in any way at someone else's wedding no matter how close i am to the bride and groom... if you are going to do something, check with the couples themselves first... like me, they may not want the extra attention at someone else's wedding...

mcornelissen

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[QUOTE]I agree, the day is about you and your FI. I personally wouldn't want to have attention drawn to me on someone else's wedding day, but that's just me. If you wanted to do something small, you could have their place cards and/or escort cards read "<strong>The Future Mrs..." or "Soon-to-Be Mrs..." and send their invitation addressed in the same fashion.
</strong>Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]

I loooooove this idea!

jerseydevil

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[QUOTE]I agree, the day is about you and your FI. I personally wouldn't want to have attention drawn to me on someone else's wedding day, but that's just me. If you wanted to do something small, you could have their place cards and/or escort cards read "The Future Mrs..." or "Soon-to-Be Mrs..." and send their invitation addressed in the same fashion.
Posted by ljahns[/QUOTE]

I also love this idea! It is cute, sweet and subtle.

I would have felt sooooo weird being called out at someone's wedding like that.