Song dedication/Walk down the aisle problem!!

shudson8808

I was always a daddy's girl. We did everything together( special road trips, fishing, sportsI have decided I would like to dedicate a song(have a song picked) to my father whom has passed away(10 years).  I am however, running into one problem..I do not have anyone "fill his shoes" so to speak. My mother and I are very close however, this may sound selfish, but if I can't share that special dance with him I don't want to share it with anyone. 

I am having this same problem with walking down the aisle. The song I would really LOVE to play for the walk down the aisle is by Edwin McCain- Walk With You. I loved this song from the moment I heard it. Now I am stuck on this song and nothing compares. Considering my father is not there, would it make sense to use this song? And again, since my father can't walk me down, I do not plan to have anyone do so.

I am having an extremly diffuclt time with this. As the date grows closer the harder this becomes. It tears me apart know I won't have him with me on this special day.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you in advance.

jessicabessica

I don't think you sound selfish at all.  I wouldn't try to force yourself to choose someone to "stand in" for your dad.  I think it's fine for you to walk down the aisle by yourself to whatever song you would like.  You could also walk down with your mom or your FI if you wanted.  

I know you didn't ask for this advice, but there are a lot of posts here about how to remember a loved one at your wedding.  You might try searching for them, but people generally suggest a locket in your bouquet, sewing something of theirs into your dress, or a sentence in your program.  I don't mean to tell you these are things you have to do, but it's just a suggestion if you hadn't thought of it.

I am sorry for your loss.  

Knottie1450123632

i dont have a dad either but not cause of death.  im not having dancing.  my daughter who is 18 been dating same guy for 3 yrs by time im married 4.  im going ask him walk me down aisle since hes family. 

jrm111

My advice would be to walk alone to the song you want to walk to and put in the program that the song is a reminder to guests that although your dad isnt there to walk with you physically, he is walking with you in spirit.

FLsweetpea1979

I am in a very similar situation to you...I was very close to my father and he passed away about 14 years ago. We decided to just not do the father/ daughter, mother/ son dances. My brother will be escorting me down the aisle (though I also thought about having my mom do it). I think it is perfectly fine for you to walk by yourself as well...I have seen that done before and it didn't seem strange at all.  Additionally, I am attaching a small frame with my dad's picture in it to my bouquet and we are going to light a candle on the altar after I walk down the aisle in his memory.
  That said, I think anything that you decide to do will be just fine... if you love a certain song, then use it.  I know how difficult it is to think of that day without your father...for me, including these small gestures have helped me to feel comforted, and to feel like I will be carrying him with me.