How can I nicely tell my mother to back off? We're only a little bit into our planning and all ready shes taking over. I keep telling her no, but its not going through. For the reception we want to go with plain settings to keep costs low, but she insists on table runners... etc etc.. I say no, i get a we'll see... really thats the lesser sort of issues that are multiplying... now my family has taken to verbally inviting people and not informing me. our venue holds 100 people, thats it. She wants to invite people who i dont have a clue who they are where i would rather have a small intimite party, we're gettign married not networking to schmooze the community. Shes really into that well they wont come but you may get a gift out of it (which i find a horrible reason to invite someone) and even the weddign planner told her that was a bad idea... help! how do i get my point across without getting more, 'well we'll talk about it later'! Ive already had to rescedual appointments so she can be there for ever detail (she cries if shes not invited) help!