Dollar Dance

rachz520

I'm having a hard time picking a song for our dollar dance, is it supposed to be a slow song? We're having a country theme wedding any suggestioins?

SCogs18

Please don't do a dollar dance.  They are tacky and really awkward. No one really wants to pay a bride or groom for the privilege of dancing with them for one a small part of a specific song.

lizzyhman

Remember this is your wedding and you pretty much get to do whatever you want.  So, go for it!!

The "Dollar Dance" is a custom in my parents culture, so we are having it in our wedding.  I think a slow song might be better, but ask your Dj for any suggestions. The gentleman who is Dj gave me a list of most common songs, played for the "Dollar Dance".

Have fun

missaprilmarie1988

ok i gotta ask what is this dollar dance??

brenda2011Wed139476

I, for one, won't be doing one.  It can be awkward, and whomever dances with you doesn't get a chance to really talk to you.  I am also not doing a bouquet toss, as we won't have any single women in the crowd.  We will be doing an anniversary dance, where all the married couples get on the floor with the newlyweds, and count up till the couple who has been married the longest is on the floor with us.  Then we will give them my bouquet, and a bottle of wine.

sparent2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>Remember this is your wedding and you pretty much get to do whatever you want.  So, go for it!!</strong> The "Dollar Dance" is a custom in my parents culture, so we are having it in our wedding.  I think a slow song might be better, but ask your Dj for any suggestions. The gentleman who is Dj gave me a list of most common songs, played for the "Dollar Dance". Have fun
Posted by lizzyhman[/QUOTE]

Not really-

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance : It's a dance where you guests pay money to dance with the bride and the groom. I, personally, do not like them. I don't think that your guests should be pushed to pay for anything at your wedding. I did not do one, and the only wedding I've been to that had one was totally awkward. No one came up to dance for the first couple minutes and the Best Man and MOH eventually had to pull people out of their seats to get them to dance. Bottom Line -- Don't do it. <strong>*Disclaimer: If everyone you've even known get married has had a dollar dance, and every wedding you've ever been to has had one, that I think it's okay to do one. Still against etiquette, but at least your guests won't side-eye you for it.</strong>
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

I agree with cfas on this one..

melntaitt

Ditto @ Brenda; we're doing the anniversary dance and the bouquet presentation - the wine sounds like a great idea! We won't be doing a dollar dance because we're just not into it, but to each their own!

Dollar dance country songs:
-Take the money and Run . Steve miller band .
- Money , Money, Money - O'jays .
-If i had a million dollars - Bare naked ladies

I stole those from another website but I think it's pretty close to what you're looking for.

JaxInBlue

DH and I did what Brenda did - anniversary dance in lieu of bouquet toss, no garter anything, no dollar dance.  I agree with cfas though that it's easier to do a dollar dance if your family embraces them, but that doesn't make them less awkward.  We were the first family wedding on both sides not to have one and no one said anything or seemed to miss it.

AurorasEnvy

OP, if this isn't a "tradition" in your family or social circle, I would agree with PPs and skip it.  The general consensus is that it comes across as a little bit "money grabby" and anytime you are asking your guests to open their wallets to spend a few moments with you comes across as rude to those who are not familiar with this custom.

If it is a tradition or custom that your family/friends are familiar with and would miss if you didn't do it, I'd go with a slow song.

Rachel405

I think the dollar dance is extremely tacky, it's like asking your guests to give you money after they came to your wedding and maybe even got you a gift already. My friend had it and everyone seemed like they felt obligated . It's rude to ask your guests for money, end of story,IMHO.

HannahK15

I'm going to be completely honest in my opinion. I don't think having a dollar dance is a huge deal! Its not like your asking your guests to pay $10 or even $5 to dance it's $1. If they don't wanna do it they don't have to.

I really think it depends on the personalities of your guests. I've been to wedding where they have and where they don't have them. The weddings that did have them were really fun and people liked participating! Plus it's only one song so 3-4 min, really not a big deal in my opinion.

Remember she asked for songs not your opinion on whether she should have one. Sometimes people need to remember that even though we may all mostly be from the same country that doesn't mean customs and ettiquite is the same throughout.

em01092

I agree with most PPs. Skip it unless it's a tradition in your culture or family. That doesn't make it right, but at least most of your guests won't find it tacky. Even if it is common, you could still decide to skip it. Your guests have already paid to be at your wedding (travel, time off work, clothes, a gift, etc) and it's rude to make them open their wallets for ANY reason at the reception, which is to be a thank you to your guests for coming. 

Also, it ceases to be only about the B&G when they choose to involve others. The comfort and needs of their guests need to be considered. 

Maggie0829

If this is a tradition in your family and they would miss it if it wasn't done then go ahead and have the dance.  But please, for the guests who find this tacky or awkward, limit the dance to ONE song.  I have been to a few weddings where the money dance or dollar dance went on for 30 minutes...for those guests that do not enjoy that type of thing, that 30 minutes was a killer.

AbbynBrian13

Every wedding I have been to has had a dallor dance! I guess it depends on your traditions and where your from... We are totally laid back where I am from! Heck everyone loves the dallor dance here!! Do It, So much fun! Its a dallor.. nobodys making them do it if they dont want to!!

adktd2boots

I don't like them.

But if you insist on having one, your DJ should be good enough to know what songs to play.  It's their job.

ceh789

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[QUOTE]Remember she asked for songs not your opinion on whether she should have one. 
Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]
Oh, you're totally right.  <div>
</div><div>Go with Gold Digga - Kanye West.</div>

ludajean

They are not done traditionally on my side of the family but they are often done

on my FI side of the family. I don't believe we will do one. Also, most of 

my family members don't carry cash anyway.

TiffannieF

OP, this EXACT question was asked just previously please look through the first page or 2 before posting. People's answers seem to get shorter and more blunt (looking like it's rude) when we answer the same flippin question over and over. We used "I Hope You Dance" and "What a Wonderful world". In my "circle" Ive never been to a wedding that didnt have a money dance so it's very traditional here and not seen as rude or tacky. And for the poster who asked about the dollar dance , let me correct the responders. It's where people give the b & g money and dance with them for a short while until somebody bumps in to start dancing with the b or g. The B & G do not MAKE people dance with them nor do people HAVE to do this. It's completely optional and not every guest participates in it.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance : Oh, you're totally right.   Go with Gold Digga - Kanye West.
Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]

<div>I vote for this.  </div>

TiffannieF

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[QUOTE]Every wedding I have been to has had a dallor dance! I guess it depends on your traditions and where your from... We are totally laid back where I am from! Heck everyone loves the dallor dance here!! Do It, So much fun! Its a dallor.. nobodys making them do it if they dont want to!!
Posted by AbbynBrian13[/QUOTE]



*dollar. The first time you put "dallor" it didn't bother me but 3 times makes me think you are not aware of how to spell dollar...

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]I'm going to be completely honest in my opinion. I don't think having a dollar dance is a huge deal! Its not like your asking your guests to pay $10 or even $5 to dance it's $1. If they don't wanna do it they don't have to. I really think it depends on the personalities of your guests. I've been to wedding where they have and where they don't have them. The weddings that did have them were really fun and people liked participating! Plus it's only one song so 3-4 min, really not a big deal in my opinion. <strong>Remember she asked for songs not your opinion on whether she should have one. Sometimes people need to remember that even though we may all mostly be from the same country that doesn't mean customs and ettiquite is the same throughout.
</strong>Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]

She posted a question on a public forum.  We can respond how we see fit.

Also, a money dance or dollar dance is a family tradition...etiquette wise it is looked down upon and this is true no matter where you go because etiquette does not change, only traditions vary from family to family.  If the money dance is a tradition in the family then do it, but otherwise it just looks rude and greedy.

missaprilmarie1988

thanks for explaining.... i dont mean to sound rude but its reminds me of a trip club lol.... i agree tacky and awkward. if anything i still love the bouquet toss, but i will have a "tossing boquet".... lol i went to my cousins wedding in july didnt catch the bouquet, but her garter landed on my plate at the table and now im engaged haha

adktd2boots

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[QUOTE]thanks for explaining.... i dont mean to sound rude but its reminds me of a trip club lol.... i agree tacky and awkward. if anything i still love the bouquet toss, but i will have a "tossing boquet".... lol i went to my cousins wedding in july didnt catch the bouquet, but her garter landed on my plate at the table and now im engaged haha
Posted by missaprilmarie1988[/QUOTE]


Gross

SCogs18

[QUOTE]Remember she asked for songs not your opinion on whether she should have one. Sometimes people need to remember that even though we may all mostly be from the same country that doesn't mean customs and ettiquite is the same throughout.
Posted by HannahK15[/QUOTE]

Oh, but she posted this on a public forum and members are welcome to respond how ever they see fit.  At least OP didn't try to tell people how to respond to her question, unlike you.

davenport52803

If they are done in your circle, do it. If you've never seen it done before don't.  95% of the weddings i've been to have done it. I've never thought it was rude or anything. Neither did anyone else from what I could tell since it went on for 3 or 4 songs. So, if its something your group is accustomed to, then do it, if not dont.

Remember some people find the garter toss/boquet toss to be degrading/rude as well.

Personally, we wont be doing any of these things because we kinda feel they dont fit with the vibe of our wedding/

daliaalvarez28

It's fun! You are not force to dance with the bride or groom.  A $1 really people? It's part of a culture and if it is not part of your culture then simply don't do it. Plus people don't even have to attach a $1 to the bride or groom they can just dance with them. And you are not paying do dance with the bride or groom it is just an option you have to attach a $1 when you dance with them.  

 It's your wedding do what you want.  You know your family and your culture.  The song should be a slow song.  Just like a quincenera, people take turns dancing with her because it part of the culture. 

tiffanydaniels

I am definitely doing a dollar dance and we are having trouble finding a good song for it as well, I have stopped listening to the advice of people on the national boards because they all trash every idea that is against what they like.

Do what you want, it is your wedding, I have stopped caring what others think about it because everyone's situation is different, I am doing a catholic gap which i know people HATE on this board, but this is my day and i don't want to be stressed. 

http://lmdjs.com/top-25-dollar-dance-songs/

Here is a list of the 25 top dollar dance songs

Friends in low places: Garth Brooks, I hope you dance Leann Wolmak? All you really need is love Brad Paisley 

I googled searched the above so I don't know how they will fit into your wedding, good luck