Both of my parents are deceased, and even though I still have a very large family - the thought of doing a big ceremony without my mom and dad feels devastating to me. My fiance and I have discussed eloping (just going to the justice of the peace somewhere together) and hosting a large reception another day. We have the reception booked and planned - and are expecting about 200 guests.
However, as the day gets closer (9 months to go) I keep wondering if I'm going to regret NOT getting married in a church, the way my mother has always wanted. So we have been discussing the idea of having just our immediate family and the bridal party at the ceremony - and everyone else will meet us a few hours later for the reception.
Is that strange or rude to the other guests?