Toasts - Necessary?

[Deleted User]

I wasn't quite sure where to put this but here goes....

I went to a wedding Saturday and only just now realized that they didn't have any toasts!  Now are they really necessary because my MOH is terrified of public speaking and I'm worried about what the Best Man is going to say in his...

What do you ladies think? I know they're a cute time for people to speak about how cute the couple are together but besides that....

Summer2011Bride

Not necessary. My dad wanted to welcome everyone and give a short toast to us, so that is an option (or whoever is hosting the reception). I have seen the groom give a brief toast to his bride and thank people for coming when the couple is hosting. Or you can forego toasts altogether.

[Deleted User]

We're all kind of "hosting" aka splitting the costs.  I was thinking about asking the dads to stand up and thank everyone for coming.

Maggie0829

We didn't have any toasts and I don't think any of our guests noticed.  Both the MOH and BM were afraid of public speaking and my parents, who hosted, were able to make their rounds during cocktail hour to thank everyone for coming.

Yanbaru

I don't feel that there truly is anything you have to do at a wedding. Do what works best for you and your family, ect. Sometimes ppl feel compelled to say a few words at a wedding. I think that impromto makes it very special. I gave a toast as the MOH, and I was prepared bc it was expected of me. I know the BM was not comfortable but he did it since he was asked. There really is no right or wrong answer. Just remember it is your wedding and ppl should respect your wishes.

harpsdesire

You don't NEED them, but it is possible that someone like the best man, MOH or one of the fathers will really want to do one, and either end up doing it 'unscripted' or being offended not to be asked.

If you think no one cares too much about giving one... well probably people won't miss listening to them very much.

Britni&Bobby

Oh thank goodness! I was wondering about this, too. I hate public speaking and almost everyone in our bridal party, and our parents feel really awkward about having to do this kind of stuff

southernbelle0915

Britni&Bobby said:

Oh thank goodness! I was wondering about this, too. I hate public speaking and almost everyone in our bridal party, and our parents feel really awkward about having to do this kind of stuff

How did you find this thread? Via a google search or TK search? I'm curious because its over 2 years old.

lavasca

This is a huge relief. Neither the groom nor I are champagne fans and will be serving tea.

Jen4948

They're not necessary.

Britni&Bobby

I was looking for ways to make the whole toast thing less awkward- searched "toasts" with the TK community board search, and found it. Didn't realize it was two years old at the time..

southernbelle0915

@knotporscha - zombie thread. This is good info on how this stuff comes up. Another poster on Snarky Brides said the same thing about how she came across an old thread. Perhaps a good opportunity for programmers to consider adding either OP date or last post date to their search algorithm.