Dollar Dance idea

daslanwoman

I haven't been to too many weddings where they have done a dollar dance. I was wondering what people thought of them? I was tossing around the idea of doing a dollar dance for charity.  Anyone ever done that?

laurening

The general consensus is that they are rude and should be avoided unless it's longstanding family or cultural custom that's widely known and accepted amongst your guests. Even then some people aren't fans. Basically, if you're uncertain how your guests will think of it, don't do it.

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Bad idea.

banana468

Ditto everything laurening said.

PLUS, please don't turn your wedding into a philanthropic event.  If you want to donate to charity, that's fantastic.  But don't turn your wedding into a fundraiser for it.

aerinpegadrak

If you haven't been to many weddings that had them, then it's not going to be well-received.  In general, people don't like being hit up for money, especially when they've already spent money on at least a gift and very possibly new clothes, travel, and hotel to attend your wedding.  Skip it.

pandasquishy

Nope, skip it.

trix1223

Weddings are not and should not be a fund raising event, no matter how worthy the charity.  Please don't force your guests to donate to a charity that they may or may not support.  It's a really bad idea.

duckie1905

Dollar dances are rude whether you plan to keep the money or donate it.  Your wedding isn't a bride and groom money fund and it isn't a charity fundraising event.  If your guests want to dance with you, dance with them for free.

Generally, accepting money for dancing is considered to be in poor taste.

megk8oz

Didn't have one, didn't miss it, and neither did the guests.. The idea of dancing for money leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I'm from an area where it's not really expected anymore. Some people still do them ... but essentially it's pandering for cash. Which is rude, imo.

Although, when I was on my HM, some random stranger found out we were newly weds and handed us a a dollar "to add to our Dollar Dance money". It was kind of creepy ... especially when he refused to take the dollar back.

Catwoman708

Ditto what everyone else has said so far.

If you haven't been to many weddings where there were dollar dances, then they are not likely very common in your family or social circle.  They started out as a cultural thing that goes way back, so it's not just some widely accepted random thing people do at parties or weddings just because it seems like a easy way to rake in a few bucks.

mbcdefg

You have good intentions, but this is not the way to raise money for your charity. Don't do a dollar dance. Make a donation on your own dime to support your charity.

kelle017

In my area they are pretty common, but I'm not a fan of them.  I feel the same way about already spending enough on the wedding, and don't want to spend more.  Usually after the dance the person gets a hershey kiss or a jello shot or something along those lines.  I have seen it done where instead of the dollar dance they did a dollar picture session where the guests paid to have the picture of them and the bride/groom together.  It's kind of along the same idea, but at least the guest and couple have a keepsake from the moment.