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Not sure what to do

littleone2685littleone2685
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My father hasnt been a big part in my life for most of my childhood, we recently just started talking and he is coming to the wedding but my brother will be walking me down the aisle (I always told him that he would be the one to give me away). I would like to do a bride/father dance, but I dont know if I should ask my father, who isnt part of the wedding party, or my brother, or if I should just leave the dance out all together?
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Re: Not sure what to do

  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    Fathers (and mothers) are never part of the WP so leave that out of your decision.  The only question here is do you want to dance with your dad?  If so, ask him.  If not, ask your brother.  It's really just that basic.

    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    I agree, usually parents are not a part of the wedding party.  If you would like to have a father daughter dance then I think you should ask him.  Just because your brother is giving you away doesn't mean that you HAVE to do the dance with him.  I am sure that he would understand if you wanted to have a dance with your father.  Or you can scratch the dance all together.  Discuss it with your FI and close friends and get their take on it. Or maybe even your brother if you are that close that he is the one giving you away.  Which I have to say, I love this idea.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    If you want a father/daughter dance, go for it.
    If you want a brother/sister dance, you can have that, too.
    You can even divide the song and dance with both of them to the same song, if you want.
    Heck, throw a grandfather or two in there.

    It's really up to you and who you want to dance with.

    Although, if you start doing multiple dances (3 or more, imo), then I would definitely suggest combining dances into the same song or else your guests might grow a bit bored watching other people dance... or let the guests join in with their own dancing while you're dancing.

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  • skimball09skimball09 member
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    I went to a wedding and the bride had a similar issue, but it was between her father and step father.  Her dad wasn't very involved in her life so her step-dad walked her down the aisle and she had 2 father/daughter dances.  The song that was played with her real dad was kind of a generic little girl and dad song and the song for the dance with her step dad was 'because you loved me' . . . 

    I thought this might be a good option for you!
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