50/ 50 tickets

cburdell

My mom has come up with this idea of selling 50/50 tickets at the wedding where 50 of it goes towards the groom and I for our honeymoon. I am having mixed reactions about this and was wondering what your thoughts on it are. I am worried it may make the simplistic wedding I am planning have a flee market or carnival feel. Anyway let me know!

sister2groom

As a guest I would be very offended by this, so much so I would probably want to leave. I wouldn't want it to, but it would probably permanently affect my opinion of the couple. Think of it this way, if it would be rude to do at a dinner party, it would probably be rude at a wedding reception.

I know you're not literally forcing people to buy tickets, but many would feel obligated and/or uncomfortable. You never want to make your guests uncomfortable. Please, please don't do anything like this.

aerinpegadrak

"Thanks for the suggestion, Mom, we'll have to think about it.  Hey, how about that new Harry Potter movie?"  And then never speak of it again.

Seriously, don't do it.  Just don't.  Your worries are spot on.

gailpete

Your instincts are correct.  This is a very bad idea.  The reception is a thank you to your guests for sharing your wedding day with you, not a charity fundraiser.

trix1223

Your instincts are dead on.  Please don't do this.  Your wedding should not be treated like a charity fundraiser.  And honeymoons are a luxury, not a necessity.You plan the honeymoon you can afford on your own, even if it's just an overnight stay at the Marriott.

Tell your mom it's just a bad idea.

skippylouwho

That is one of the tackiest things I've ever heard of - is this a high school sports event or a wedding of two adults?

allisonkbye

i would definately skip the 50/50 

kimp67

Ditto pps, bad idea.  It's not a fund raiser, it's a wedding!

banana468

This is an awful awful idea. 

Do what Aerin said. 

goetzr19

Even if it was a carnival themed wedding, it's still wrong.  Don't do it!

ambermorley

People who have splurged on plane tickets to attend, a nice wedding gift, a day off work if necessary, or cash in your card would feel very uncomfortable about buying a raffle ticket at your wedding. I can't believe I just typed a sentence with the words raffle ticket and wedding in it.

It's hard to deal with spending lots of money on a wedding sometimes, but this is not the solution.

My fiance and I are skipping a honeymoon altogether aside from staying in a hotel the night of our wedding and spending another year saving up for a really amazing 1 year anniversary trip abroad.

banana468

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_50-50-tickets?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:ed2afa5b-935e-4854-9114-294fff6aaa14Post:84093eb2-8319-4ffa-93d3-f207e05954e3">Re: 50/ 50 tickets</a>:
[QUOTE]Isn't this what the stag and doe is for?
Posted by Cristine2011[/QUOTE]

Many people find stag and does to be quite rude.  There shouldn't be any monetary profit that you make off of your guests because they were charged admission at an event.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_50-50-tickets?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:ed2afa5b-935e-4854-9114-294fff6aaa14Post:3d9f35b4-70d0-4ef9-9770-319c862ef338">Re: 50/ 50 tickets</a>:
[QUOTE]Bad Idea I agree if your mom really wants money for your honeymoon.... this is what we are doing because my mom gets beer and wine for a big discount we are giving 2 free drinks to each guest and the rest they will have to pay for and that money is going toward our honeymoon. People may still think this is tacky but your guest really wont notice. Alot of weddings are cash bar now. Its your wedding and no one else's.
Posted by jesiwid[/QUOTE]
Wow.  I didn't think people could possibly get that crass, but there you go.

dmbeatty

Tacky!  Use a honeymoon registry instead.  Call your local travel agent and ask about one.

Cristine2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_50-50-tickets?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:ed2afa5b-935e-4854-9114-294fff6aaa14Post:c1151740-53b0-4196-a4af-20d4cd5fb7f3">Re: 50/ 50 tickets</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 50/ 50 tickets : Many people find stag and does to be quite rude.  There shouldn't be any monetary profit that you make off of your guests because they were charged admission at an event.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

I see what you mean but they're very common where I'm from. Nobody seems to look at it as the bride and groom are trying to make a buck off their guests but instead they're glad to help the couple offset the costs of a wedding because they're just getting on their feet as it is. I've been invited to stag and does for people that I've never met (but I knew the bridal party) and I've never been offended by it.