My parents aren't invited...

Lamica2015

My fianc and I have discussed this and due to the poor relationship between my parents and I, and between my fianc and my parents, they will not be invited to our wedding. I will be asking my grandfather to walk me down the aisle, and if he is not available or comfortable, my brother in law who I am very close to. How do I go about letting them know they are not allowed to attend? Please don't be negative about my decision, I really am just not sure how to tell them they can't come.

vbjoanna

If you aren't actually in regular contact with them, no need to tell them at all.

Avion22

They'll realize when invitations go out that they didn't get one.  

Just like with anyone else you don't intend to invite, avoid discussing the wedding around them.  It you don't have contact with them, then you probalby don't need to mention it AT ALL until after it happens.  If it comes up, be vague about time, location, etc.

alithebride

dont send them an invite. if they ask why be honest. if family members ask dont discuss it iwth them.

sxcwed

I'd say to be straight with them.  You wouldn't want them to show up after not being invited because I'm assuming they'll find out the date/time/location from other family members.  You could also have another family member have a sit down and let them know but I think in this situation it'd be best coming from yourself. 

TaraKeeley

I'm sorry for your unpleasant situation; it really sucks that your relationship with your parents has turned out this way, and it must be a crappy decision for you to have to make. At any rate, I would find a way to politely contact them and say "because of our past issues/current unpleasantness, we would prefer if you didn't attend our wedding..." or somehting like that. I think that they'll hear details from other relatives, and may feel like showing up is a peace offering of sorts... or if they're really awful, they may just want to spite you, God forbid. Either way, I think you need to find a way to delicately, but firmly, say something.