Check with RSVP...

owengirl996

Anyone else gotten any? We have 10% of our RSVPs back (two on Saturday, 7 came in today), and today, one of them that was a "decline" had a check in it. I guess I didn't really expect it! Anyway, what's etiquette on this? I am not planning to cash it until AFTER the wedding, but I don't know this person at all. I have no way of contacting her myself, other than her address...do we find a way to acknowledge that we received it? Do I send her a thank you card now?? I just don't want her to think it was lost in the shuffle, but it feels weird to send a thank you already. (Plus our official thank you cards will be with a pic from the wedding, so I'd have to use a shower one, not that it matters lol)

My only other thought is to have FI's mom? dad? (not sure which side she's on lol) mention it, but I'm not even sure how much they talk to her. What are you guys doing for gifts that show up early? 

Madisonpenny

Send a thank you card saying that your sorry they aren't attending but that you appreciate the gift and let them know you'll be putting it towards 'such and such".

ajmom2two

Send a thank you now.  I would think this would be the same as when you get a gift in the mail before the wedding and you send a thank you right away for those.  Our RSVP deadline was Friday and we have about 70% back after calling a ton of people today.  I hope you get most of yours back and dont have to call a lot of people like me!

owengirl996

Thanks! Wasn't sure of the etiquette for the gifts since we haven't gotten any yet lol

I will get the thank you out this week

While we only have 10% back, we JUST sent them out last Tuesday (there was a delay with the girl doing our addressing). So 10% less than a week later isn't too bad. Hopefully they start flowing in this week for the people that live where the wedding is. So far, we only have "local" (like, within New England) RSVPs. I hope I don't have to call a ton of people either!!

Melissa.hylton

You might want to cash it now. The only reason i say this is because FI got a bday card with a check and he cashed it a month after the fact and the check bounced! That money they have given you was budgeted in this months budget most likely. 

Find a way a call or write a thank you card now since they arent attending the wedding. 

dramaqueen91087

Definitly cash it now. There is a good chance that they planned on the money coming out of their account now and waiting could really mess them up. Just don't spend it until after the wedding.

michelle11988

I would send a thank you card now even if its a shower thank you card.  I would also cash the check ASAP, I personally hate when I pay something with a check and it takes weeks to clear because I'll forget and get nervous it will bounce!

LADY324

I agree with the others cash the check now.  I am sure they are not expecting you to wait until the wedding to cash it.  I hate it when it takes people a long time to cash checks that I write.  So we always give cash at weddings now.  Cash it and write a thank you note now.

BeachLover2885

If the check is dated for this month or earlier, definitely cash it. We have checks we need to deposit and TYs to write. Because FI and I have a joint account, he was able to deposit a check that was made out to both of us but with his last name only (like Alison and Jeff FI's last name). We need to deposit the rest of the checks and write TYs this week. We received one check that was dated for our wedding date, so we will wait to deposit that one but will still send a TY before the wedding. HTH! 

awright1983

You should cash the cheque now, but don't spend the money until after the wedding.  You should also send a thank you card right away.

owengirl996

Thanks, guys. It is made out to "Mr & Mrs lastname". I'll have FI take it to his bank next week (since he's the one with the last name at the moment) and see if they can deposit it for him. If not, we were planning to get a joint account once we're married anyway, so maybe we'll do it before.