I don't really post on here, but thought I'd see if anyone had any suggestions on how to handle a family situation. I live overseas, and my met my fiance abroad. We are planning a destination wedding, knowing that no matter how we cut it, someone will have to travel, so it seemed best to make it small and in a place where everyone can enjoy a vacation. We chose our date based on a number of factors, not the least of which is dependent on work and the fact that I will be moving next spring.
Unfortunately, the timing is such that my sister will have a 3-month-old, plus a toddler at the time of the wedding. She has a number of concerns about traveling with her kids, all of which I understand perfectly. However, when we talk, I feel like I am constantly being barraged by negativity about the choice that we made about having a destination wedding, how hard that makes things for her, etc.. It's set off more than a couple of arguments between us, which is causing me significant stress.
So what I'm really looking for advice on is what can I offer her to calm her nerves about traveling with kids? I don't have kids, so admittedly I don't understand how hard it might or might not be to travel with them. But on the flip side, I feel like she's overreacting. I've offered to meet her and help with luggage when she arrives, I've been trying to make room recommendations based on what she needs, I've tried to explain transportation options, everything I can, but she still just seems so irritated by the fact that she has to travel at all. We even nixed a possible location based on her concerns, and ultimately chose a place with direct flights to limit the burden.
Any suggestions are most welcome - thanks in advance!