STD vent

teakum

First off let me say I don t know what is my problem. I was so excited about pur STD and they are very cute.But I got them in the mail last week or so and I have only mailed out about half. I have decided the other half are not worth of coming to my wedding and I am cutting peopl right and left. Whats wrong with me???Also I don t know if you remember about a week or so Fi's cousin's wife voulenteered her kids to be in the wedding(ummm NO) anyway Now she will not leave me alone. I hardly know her she is an okay person I just would not hang out with her. Anyway she is driving me up the wall her MI(fi's aunt got her save the dte) but cousin did not get hers, (cause I really had no intentions of inviting them) She just emailed me her address for the STD. So I guess I will be nice and mail her one. This wedding is really bringing out the worst in me and other people also. I just found out the my MOH had her hair done last night so she won t be able to pay for her bm dress when we go to be fitted this SATURDAY!!! HolY Hell what is wrong with people. I knwo we are having a DW and we are kinda doing it big but now I just want to go to the court house and be done with it. ANYWAY thanks for listening.

teakum

Sorry for all the typo's I don t type well when angry.  

LadyBird9

I'm so sorry that you are going through this! If I were you, I would probably tell FI's cousin's wife that we are only planning on inviting close friends and family, and are looking forward to celebrating with her at the AHR (if you are having one) OR that you are looking forward to celebrating with her when you get back by going out to dinner or something like that. From the looks of things, she is only going to get worse - so I would do what I could to stop her now! Would your FI possibly say something to her so you aren't the bad guy?

FutureMrs.McC

If you want to have a smaller wedding - do it!  What does FI think about his cousin?  If you don't want to invite them, just say you have limited space and are only inviting close family members. It sounds like your MOH is being irresponsible since you have plans for Saturday but why does she have to buy her dress so far in advance?  I have never bought a BM dress 7 months ahead of time.  Good luck and don't let it stress you out.

teakum

FI is rude and really not good with this kinda thing his respone was I don t know her tell her to back the F off. So I will try to deal with it. I did go ahead and mail her a STD but from now on I will just avoid her emails. Its like she is lonely and just looking for a friend. But I don t want to be her friend 

teakum

She does not have to buy it but she was to pay half down for it to be ordered. and its gonna take about 16 weeks for the dresses to come in per dress show and then if the dress needs to be atlered ect they will have time.

LadyBird9

Teakum - if you send her an STD then she will be at the wedding... If you don't want her there you really should talk to her about it! Avoiding her emails may only make it worse... I hope that things get better soon!

teakum

I don t know what I am going to do. I will handle her though.

CNN in 2010

Weddings can bring out the nastiest person in us.  The problem is as the couple getting married we expect that the people that we've been closest to and there for every step of the way will be happy for us and will want to be a part of the celebration.  But then those people start having an opinion about every aspect of our wedding as if the couple is being over the top and demanding.  The guests think, hey life still goes on for us... it's your wedding not mine.  But the thing we as the couple think is it's a one time occasion and it's a big one so we would hope that our loved ones would go a little out of there way for us, but unfortunately a lot of people don't feel that way unless it hits home. I think the best thing is to stay true to your hearts desires and find a compromise with the people you care about the most and can't imagine not having in your wedding.  Maybe you can talk to your MOH and help her pay for her dress then she pay you back.  And maybe just have a talk with her and see if she's having any issues personally in her life or issues with your wedding. Good Luck!