Advice needed: FMIL

k_dummer

How do I put it nicely that I want to have my FMIL dress a certain way? She told me she was going to wear beige when fi and I first got engaged. I'm scared that she might actually do that. We don't exactly see eye to eye on things. I'd prefer that she dress casual and in a light green (whatever) she plans on wearing. I know that if  I don't ask what she is wearing she would never tell me. I don't want to come off snobby. Any ideas?

FutureMrs.McC

IMHO you should not tell your FMIL what to wear unless she asks.  This is one of those pick your battle moments.

CNN in 2010

Yeah I agree with pp.  I was going to ask my parents and fi's parents to wear a certain color so they match the wedding party but then I figured that was to much work.  I rather my fmil and my mom feel comfortable in what they wear and feel confident.  Don't worry about her.  All the attention is on your and fi anyway.

LadyBird9

Um, I am in the same boat as you. I am terrified to think about what my FMIL is going to wear to the wedding - so I am taking her shopping this weekend!! We are going together for some good girl bonding (along with FSIL) and this way I can make sure she picks something appropriate!! Do you guys live in the same town? That would be my best suggestion... :-)

lizbabydoll

My FMIL asked what my mom was going to wear and I told her she was going to pick a blue dress. I was kind of hoping she would wear blue but didnt wanted to tell her. She asked me what color would be better and I was like woohooo I would like blue, and she got a pretty dark blue, she even told me what she was going to wear. I think your FI has to talk to her, in an indirect way, that way you two dont sound rude or what not, its better for a mom to hear her son asking for a color/style than a new daugther in law you know? or telling her what color "would" look good on her...

Krysten110

I kind of disagree with most of the other ladies here! I don't think you can tell her specifically what to wear but you can most certainly imply that any shade close to or somewhat resembling white is off limits to anyone besides yourself!! It is ridiculous that she even said she was going to wear a beige or off-white color! Try talking to her about what you prefer and if that doesn't work try having your fh interject and talk to her. Good luck!!!