does this place exist?????

glitterandglitz

I am SOOO stressed. First of all this is my first post in this forum, but I figured who better to ask than you girls. I normally post in my "fall" wedding forum, But I am so sick of this wedding crap that I'm getting to the point of just wanting to go away.... I've been planning a fall/ country-chic wedding for next october. But with every little detail lingering over my head & my boss telling me if her kids couldn't come then "she just wasnt going to come", I don't know her family like that. I can't afford to invite EVERYONE, & i might cause problems at my job if i don't. ok....that was my rant. Here is my question. I would like to invite just people who I want to have there, around 20 people to some place that has character and good food. An all inclusive place would be great. I don't want anything cheesy, I would love to have a mini version of the wedding I was planning. Low cost, but beautiful and not short on style. Please tell me what to do......

Future.Mrs.H.

Hi and welcome to the board! There are a million places that fit that description. You can go the the dwbridesbio.com and check out places where knottied have gotten married at to get ideas. Also...if you still decide that you want the fall wedding; don't worry about what people tell you. Just don't say anything to your boss. When time comes to invite her send it the invitation (minus the kids on the RSVP) and she will decide if she wants to go or not. Her decission not yours. And if she has a problem finding someone to take care of the kid, well she can stay at home, her problem, not yours.You can't plan your wedding around what people want or think or you will end up insane and very frustrated. People are very opinionated and when it comes to weddings you can't please everyone. Remember this is your day. For you and your FI to be happy, so your decisions are the only ones that count.Good Luck!

loririck

someone recently posted pictures of a wedding at the Biltmore in NC.  It was breathtaking and would be absolutely amazing in the fall with the leaves changing colors.

manda311

You can't plan your wedding around what people want or think or you will end up insane and very frustrated. People are very opinionated and when it comes to weddings you can't please everyone. Remember this is your day. For you and your FI to be happy, so your decisions are the only ones that count. BEST.ADVICE.EVER!! I went through the same thing, planning a wedding near home, trying to please everyone, stressing myself out to the max. Once I switched to a DW, I felt a HUGE HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders and I have been so happy with my decision

LadyBird9

Hey! Welcome to ME last year!! I started planning a lovely Dallas wedding, and it was miserable!!!! Congrats on deciding on a DW! [b]BEST DECISION I EVER MADE![/b] There are so so so so many places that you can chose from. Definitely check out the DW Brides bio for ideas. We are getting married in Maui, not all inclusive, so I am not much help... just wanted to say congrats and welcome to the board! :-)

glitterandglitz

Thanks for the nice welcome....& the good advice....I'm still torn, I really want a big wedding. & all the places i look at cost just as much as my big wedding...so i dunno anymore...

JSBB2010

Where are you from and how far are you wanting to travel? Also, what type of place interest you...the beach, mountains, small southern city???

t1nkfan

Props Normailed!!!!  Well said!!!!

Future.Mrs.H.

If you wanna have a big wedding do so. I will hate for you to have a DW and then regret the decision of not having a big wedding at home forever. Or remember that you can always have a small DW and have a reception at home afterwards.

chosen175

We actually changed our DW to a wedding back home - I just can't bear to leave this board.  :-)  The reason was mostly because our venue was really unprofessional, despite reading mostly great things online AND a great rating by the BBB.  But I won't lie - part of the reason we moved it back home was because of all the flack we got from people.I AM sad that we're not having our DW but am slowly getting excited about our wedding at home.  That doesn't mean I'm not harboring some resentment towards the people who gave us such a hard time about the DW.  And I think that resentment will be around for a long time.  So do what YOU guys want - screw everyone else.  Don't let their negativity make you regret your wedding day!Check out Gazebo Weddings of Savannah - that was one of the places we looked at in Savannah, Ga.  They have a 20 person gazebo on their property that would be perfect for a small wedding, and several areas in their yard/garden for beautiful photo ops.  Email me at chosen175 at aol dot com if you want to see the pics I took while on our scouting trip. 

Jess&Ryan2010

I say do what makes YOU happy. Destination wedding or traditional wedding, you will get flack from people. You just have to remember this is your day. Don't let anyone pressure you into having the wedding you don't want or inviting people you don't want there. We are having a destination wedding in Mexico with 30-40, then having a large, very casual AHR (at home reception) for everyone. I am so happy with the decision. Guests will feel the need to voice their opinions and tell you what you should and shouldn't do, but do what you want. : )