Vent: job related

beachybride10

So I HATE my job. The thing is, I love what I do, but hate the environment. If I didn't love what I do, I would have quit ages ago. I really cannot take it any longer. I've been here for over 2 1/2 years. I'm not sleeping at night because I'm so stressed. I am miserable because all I do is get so panicky and stressed about work. My FI works in the same office and is having similar thoughts. I was actually happier to be home with the flu, incredibly sick, because it meant I wasn't at work. I have been applying for other jobs, but there's not lots of event planning jobs out there right now. We pay $1600 for a 700 sq. ft. one bedroom apartment, so I can't quit my job. So, we're thinking about quitting our jobs and moving back to WI. I know its STUPID to give up jobs in this economy. I'm an incredibly logically person, so for me to even consider this means its bad. I've had a job since I was 14. So,I don't know what to do. It's like what's worse, living with family and no job, or being miserable every day because of the job. Any advice? Vent over for now. Thanks for listening, and mimosa for those of you who made it through.

FutureMrs.McC

That's tough.  I went through something similar a couple years ago.  I work for a really small company and my boss was super stressed and taking it out on everyone.  I would get these terrible stomach aches just thinking about going to work.  It's much better now.It's really hard to give you advice on this one.  All I can say is go with your gut!

SteffyC

I also work as an event manager and have similar sleeping/stressing issues, I have been with my company for 4 years and I decided this year enough is enough.  I am going to try my very hardest to stick it out till I go back to school next fall (total change in career- school counseling), and if I can't I will quit and substitute teach.  Just giving myself a light at the end of the tunnel has helped SO much, so that is my advice.  Try to make some kind of plan, moving back to WI by XX date, that way you aren't stuck feeling like it's never ending.HTH-hang in there!!

LadyBird9

Honey I am so sorry. I know how this is - my FI and I are dealing with the same issues right now. We constantly talk about moving back to the city where we went to school... we loved it there. I say keep trying to find another job - and I agree with PP that it would be good to set a date to move! Maybe give yourself 3 or 6 months to either find something else, or get the heck out! Life is too short and too wonderful to be miserable because of a job. :-) HTH!

captainleela

That sucks. I went through the same thing two years ago. I was living in Boise and was completely miserable...totally hated my job. So I up and quit and moved back home with the faith that everything would work out in some form or the other...and it did. I had to live w/ my mom for a few months while I looked for a job, and thank god I found one fairly quickly. And now I'm sooooo much happier. It's a tough decision, especially in this economy. Do you have anyone in WI that you could crash with for awhile until you guys get back on your feet again? *hugs* hating your job is never a good thing, especially considering you spend half your life there.

beachybride10

Thanks ladies. I really appreciate the advice and support. It's a hard decision to make. I did make a cut off date - which was June. And I didn't do anything because I had to pay deposits for the wedding. But, I don't know how long I can continue to do this!Alison - FI's family is there. His mom offered to let us stay there while we figure things out. It's just her in a 4 bedroom house because FI's dad got a job in Madison and is living there during the week and commuting back on the weekends.

natalie0131

Oh man. I totally feel for you and I'm sorry you have to be in this situation right now. The way I see it, ultimately life is short. And if you hate your job (and subsequently your life) then I think you owe it to yourself to do something different. It IS a scary time to quit a job right now. I'm actually just trying to GET a job right now, so it's even scarier that it feels like there are no jobs left to get. On my first interview I was offered a freelance gig in NYC. They would have paid me more in a day than I made in a week at my then-current part-time job. But I looked around their office and looked at their work and knew I would either 1) be miserable 2) not progress as a creative or 3)  get bogged down by my loans and keep the job just because it was money even if it wasn't a good fit. So I walked away from the job. And I felt kind of stupid when I did that, but even now two months later when I'm jobless and living with my parents that it was the right thing to do. I guess what I'm trying to say is, I may be broke, I may be 24 and FI and I are living with my parents, but I'm happy and I know the next job opportunity is out there. I do something job-hunting-related every single day and for the rest of the day I enjoy being unemployed. I do domestic chores, I work out, I discover all the local attractions I never bothered exploring when I grew up here. So, bottomline in my long-winded theory: if your gut tells you to get out, and your FI is miserable, too, and you find the flu freakin pleasurable b/c atleast you don't have to be at work-- I think it's time to move on. HTH; we're all here for you