Gift registry??

jesbar11

We are planning on a private beach wedding next spring, just the two of us so we can finally move in together, and will announce it when we get back. Then we'll save up to pay for a vow renewal and reception with our families/friends later (we think it will take about 2 years for us to save up for it). Should we set up a registry now anyway in case people want to give us something once they hear we're married? We do need all the house stuff now, and there would be no point registering for things like a toaster two years from now - we'll have bought it by then! I think it will look tacky to send out a registry notice with our announcements, but my H2B says people might want to know and contribute. What should we do?

LadyBird9

If you are planning on eloping, then I don't think you should register at all. And I don't want to sound snarky - because I don't mean to be - but sending out registry information with announcements is like saying "hey, we went and got married, didn't invite you, but send a gift!" Most people these days get married after living together - but still register for traditional stuff. My FI and I have lived together for 2 years and still need a good toaster (the one we have is cheap! haha) Hope this helps - and I really don't mean to sound b!itchy or anything like that!!! Congrats on your wedding!! :-)

captainleela

I agree w/ pp. I think sending registry info w/ announcements is going to look "gift grabby." You could probably make a registry and then if people ask for your registry info you could give it to them. But I wouldn't "announce" to anyone that you made a registry.And, FWIW, my FI and I have been living together for 4 years, we own a house, and we still found plenty of stuff to register for.

DanielleB1978

I am eloping - however it is a "planned elopment" and all our friends and family know our plans.  I wasn't going to register, but then my office threw a surprise bridal shower for me and they had no clue what to get us!  We are having a party/reception with our families two weeks after our wedding so I didn't want family members to be clueless in case they want to give a gift.  But I'm not telling anyone we are registered unless they ask.  I actually don't want presents especially since FI and I have both been living on our own for 10+ years and can buy the things we need/want on our own.My advice - it doesn't hurt for you to register, but I wouldn't send out announcements.

LadyBird9

yup, revising what i said, you can register! i just re-read what i wrote... probably a good idea to register - just give the info to people who ask :-)