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RSVP Rant...

My first RSVP I received for our AHR pissed me off! We had a family BBQ tonight and I just handed out some invites instead of mailing them. I had them addressed already so people would know who exactly is invited. I had one aunt fill out her RSVP and hand it back. I decided to wait until we got back home to look. I addressed the invite to her and her family. At most her RSVP should have been 4 people, and that's stretching it since the fourth person would be her 40 yr old daughter's boyfriend. Well at our family BBQ tonight she brought 2 strangers. I found out later that she took these two people in - she can't even afford her own rent! Well no surprise when I open the RSVP that she's wrote on the "how many chairs to save" 5 people. So I am assuming she is going to bring these people to my reception, and not my cousin who was invited! These people aren't invited! Especially when I was never introduced to them!!! This aunt isn't well liked and I feel like calling and telling her not to show up if she can't respect me enough not to bring strangers to my reception.

Re: RSVP Rant...

  • I think you're going to have to have to make a call and have a difficult conversation. Something along the lines of - I'm sorry, but those extra 2 ppl aren't invited, as I don't know them. Hey, what about cousin, is she coming? Sorry! I don't know where ppl get off bringing random ppl without at least asking if they can.
  • Oh man, that's just so bizzare! I think I agree with the previous post, you're gonna have to call her and say it's not okay if she brings random people to your reception. It's a family and friends event and they're neither.
  • I'd call her up and play stupid - "Hey, I noticed your RSVP had 5 people on there and I was wondering if that was a mistake since there are only 3 of you in the family." and see what she says. If she talks about the 2 boarders, I'd mention something like "I'm glad you're getting along and all, but I would feel a little weird having 2 complete strangers at our AHR. Would it be possible for just the 3 of you to attend?" and see what she says. There really is no easy way out of something like this, though. Yikes! Good luck!
  • Ditto Chosen!!!!!!! Thats the perfect way to go about it. Just play dumb. And yeah dude thats crazy... Sorry you have to deal with it!
  • Icky situation. I agree with all previous posts. Sorry you gotta deal with her silliness.
  • That's terrible. I agree, the call is going to have to happen so just play confused. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
  • Let us know how she takes it. We're with you MI!
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