WP advice

autzen1024

Good evening girls!! So many of your are leaving soon!!! We are having roughly 30 guests and are starting to think about who we want for our wp. Would it be weird if we had 3 or 4 people on each side and one of our friend be the officiant? I am just concerned it will look weird with some 7-9 people standing up with us and there only be 32 people in total there?!?! Am I just being weird about this? TIA!

LadyBird9

I had the same thoughts in the beginning... but we finally decided to screw it and do what we wanted. LOL! We have 40 guests total coming to Hawaii... and we will have 5 people on each side of us when we get married. ....... thats 12% of our guests. :-) We are doing it pretty untraditional too... FI's little sister is his best man... and his step sister is standing on his side... and my brother is standing on mine... its just gonna be a big group of love up there. haha! I don't think you will have any people thinking it looks weird at all... they will be too busy thinking about how AWESOME the wedding will be!!

carrieoz_76

We're gonna have 25-30 guests, and we'll each have 3 attendants. I don't care how it looks - I just wanted certain people, and so did FI. Just do what you want! However, I would caution to you take your time in actually asking them to be your attendant. You're still super early. Even for a DW, I think you wouldn't want to ask someone much sooner than 12-13 months out (so they can save and plan). The sooner you ask them, the sooner the drama starts (or so you can read about on the WP board!). Plus, relationships change, especially when you're planning a wedding. There's no rush yet.

LadyBird9

Oooooooooooooh yes... BIG ditto to PP's post. I had major WP drama so I know all about it. I totally agree to wait a little bit before asking anyone.

chosen175

I didn't want major WP drama, so we decided on 1 attendant on each side. That way, there was nobody to fight with over dress styles, etc. (Our initial guest list was 34, and I was also worried about having more people standing up front than watching the ceremony from the chairs.) I also waited until about 11 months out to ask anyone. By then, people knew our plans and had pretty much decided whether they were coming or not. I was afraid to ask someone, have them say yes, and then have them decide they weren't going to the DW.