kids are invited but...

teakum

we are not providing a sitter. So if their parents want to party all night long with us. they need to come up with their own sitter. Are we horrible people for this? I don t feel so, but I am getting that vibe from some guest.

Bigwuhead

No NO NO!  We are doing the same thing.  Who am I to say you can't bring your child on vacation, however, I am the bride and I say you cannot bring your child to our reception.  They can come to everything else.  We made it BEYOND clear from day one that kids were not welcome at the reception.  The few people we know who are bringing kids are also bringing a sitter or have made arrangements. So...NO you are not a horrible person at all.  Beside, mom and dad need a night off too!

ericandcindy

Not at all.  We didn't even think about this.  It's your guests responsibility regardless of it being a DW or a wedding back home.  They wouldn't expect you to get a sitter if you had it nearby would they?  They need to be responsible parents. 

smilz4milz

We're marrying at Sandals so the DW wouldn't be kid-friendly.  And our invites for the AHR specifically state "An Evening for Adults" (*in bold*).  I've had 1 friend tell me that their kid will "make an appearance" at the AHR...:::squeaking brakes!!:::  I still have to "nip this in the bud" because at the time it threw for a loop that someone actually said that to me.  If you can't find a sitter, don't come.  We knew that this would be an issue for some when we decided on no kids...and we're fine with it.I've never been to a wedding where babysitting was offered...it's a nice gesture...but not your responsibility.