What to do?

alisonpilgrim610

both my dad & my mom are supposed to walk me down the aisle. Well originally I was just going to have my dad, but then thought it would be a nice gesture to ask my mom to walk me down too. But I never got a chance to "ask" b/c my mom basically TOLD me she was walking me down before I got a chance. And she said my dad will just have to deal with it (they are divorced). I was kinda put off by this. She totally ruined it for me and now I really don't want her to walk me down. To make matters worse, she told my dad that she was walking me down too just to get him worked up. And of course I think he's a little hurt that she is intruding on his moment and I am letting her... So now I feel caught in the middle. I know my dad wants to walk me down alone and I know my mom feels she should walk me down too, but in all honesty I just want it to be my dad. Nothing against my mom really, but I don't like the fact that she basically didn't give me choice, plus i always envisioned my wedding with just my dad walking me down. I don't know what to do now. I know my mom will have a sh*t fit about it if I say something to her... What do I do?? Sorry this is so long, I am distraught!

tiffany8610

I'm sorry to hear about the drama! Honestly, if you are still close with your dad, let him walk you down the aisle.  It's not like he divorced you as your daughter!  I don't think it's your mom's place to tell you who is going to do that.  It is totally your decision!!  If you're dad is cool with it, it may be a nice gesture to have your mom do it too... but that may just be asking for drama. I hope you get it straightened out! Good luck

JSBB2010

We are twins girl! My parents are divorced and the feeling between them is not good. I'm closer to my Mom than my Dad but I feel like it's right for my Dad to walk me. I'm sure he had been waiting for this all my life. So, I'm going to get my Mom to light the candle in memory of my grandparents and let my Dad walk me. This didn't go over well at first but as the months have past my Mom seems to be o.k. with it now. I plan on doing something special for her as I get down the isle. I think I'm going to give her a hankercheif that says: "Today I am a bride, tomorrow I will be a wife, but I will always be your daughter." with the date on it too. I stole that from a knottie but I don't have my notes with me here at work to give her credit. I hope this helps.

ericandcindy

Oh that's a toughy.  I'm sorry she put you in this situation.  Sometimes I think parents are so selfish when it comes to their children's weddings and this is the last time they should be.  I would sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel.  She shouldn't have put you in that situation and that you want to do it your way.  If you really want just your dad then do it.  But if you want to include your mom there are many ways to do that also.  Have her walk with you both halfway or something.  But you have to do what you want.  Unfortunately it sounds like someones feelings will or have already been hurt.  But it's also not right that she's made the decision for you.  :::vibes::: that it all works out for the best.  GL

ginaherman6

Aw Alison, that really stinks. I'm sorry your mom is putting you in this situation. I agree with pp and maybe you can work out some type of compromise. Or maybe once you reach the alter your mom can join you and your dad for the part where the minister asks who gives you away.I hope it all works out and they don't cause you too much more stress before your wedding.