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Have I Gone Insane? *Vent*

Hello Fellow Desitnation Brides,With my wedding in Mexico 45 days away, my bridesmaid (and future SIL) emails me last night to tell me she has bought another dress for the wedding!!!!  I was completely shocked. There was no discussion about this - I just got the email last night at midnight saying she bought it.  My sister (and MOH) and she went shopping with me in April and both of them liked the dress they both had already bought (they were matching dresses from David's).I told them back in April when we started all this that if they wanted to wear different styles it would be fine, but they both agreed to purchase the same dress and they did, so I felt this needed no further discussion.So now am I not only dissappointed that my future SIL did this, but now I will have to deal with my sister who will no doubt whine to me about "well if she isn't wearing the dress then I'm not going to wear the dress."Of course at the end of the email my future SIL throws in the "if you really don't want me to wear the new drews, I won't".....Thanks for the out AND the opportunity to look like Bridezilla.My fiance offered to speak to his sister about this, but I think it will just make it worse.  I don't think either of them realize this is bigger than just a dress - I really feel disrespected that she didn't take a moment to think that (a) I happen to like the dress they bought already, (b) my sister is now going to freak and (c) I didn't appreciate getting the news via email without prior discussion!Please tell me I am not the only one dealing with freaks who are supposed to be family!?!?!?  Of course this just adds to issues I've alreaady been having with my sister about coming to my wedding, guests who are not RSVPing (or careing) and still trying to get all of the wedding-related gifts and whatnot finished!!!Sorry for the long rant, but I've been up since 5 am mulling over all this!!Kat

Re: Have I Gone Insane? *Vent*

  • I don't think asking her to wear the original dress would be very bridezilla at ALL. Especially if he threw in the "if you dont want me to wear it..." I would simply email her back and say that you didn't know she was even thinking about getting a new dress, and you really like the original dress, and like that the two of them will be in the same dress... so it would be great if she could wear the original one. I would pretend like its no big deal... tell her that she should wear the new dress to the rehearsal dinner or something like that. She probably has no idea what a big deal it is, which is why she emailed you. So just stick with that and write a quick email back saying that you would prefer if she wore the original one. :-) Hang in there... Hope this helps!
  • Thanks, LB9.  I just basically said that if she felt so strongly about it, then just wear the new one.  Maybe I'll just show up in a thong now!  lol  My sister actually didn't freak out about it as much as I thought, so I've crawled back out of my tree! lolIt just boggles my mind how people can be so rude!  She's been married and I would hope she would understand how this would have made me feel, but I guess never ASSume!I love your website, LB9.  You look great and you give me hope that my own 30 Day Shred will get me looking as good as you!!!I'm just going to take the day to privately sulk while I run errands and have my little pity party.  I'll get over it, but its just bizzare!
  • Hey Kat,I'm really glad your sister didn't freak about the dress. And I'll say that it was really thoughtless of your FSIL to just up and buy herself a new dress. There's always a chance that she wasn't completely honest when you were all at DB together when they bought their (original) dresses. The manner and timing of her communication is what's so disrespectful to me! I'll bet she knew you'd be upset and wanted to avoid the confrontation. :: zen vibes ::*m*
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