Only you ladies will understand

cmoffett205

So I am all for FI having a bach party. They are planning to go off roading and dirt biking in West Virginia and camp. Two of his GM asked me if I had a pref for what weekend they planned it. I said it did not matter as long as it is not the weekend of 10/31. Now that is not because of Halloween BUT because it is the last weekend before we leave AND we are supposed to get legally married here that weekend or Mon/Tues before we leave for PR. SO needless to say he tells me tonight the party is that weekend and I am less then pleased about it and it seems selfish and in the heat of the moment said "well what's the big deal I have done all the planning up til this point I'm sure I'll be able to handle the stress those last few days on my own why should I expect anything different from you"...... WHOOPSY b/c after that remark we sat and ate dinner in silence. I'm not trying to be difficult but a little support would be nice since all of my family and friends are in Philadelphia and I have been in North Carolina doing this all by myself I thought my future husband might step up to the plate.All this anger is going to make for a GREAT workout. Thanks for reading this far ladies!

Future.Mrs.H.

Just relax and don't stress too much about it. I said something similar to FI when he was watching football all day while I was stressing about finishing the pre-travel packages. I felt so bad after, but at least he helped me a whole lot after that...hehehehe If he really wants to have the bach party that weekend and there is no other alternative, that's ok...maybe you can do the legal stuff the weekend before that or during the week (I actually think is easier to do it during the week)...at least in CO is. Good Luck and remember to breathe and relax.

CNN in 2010

This is just my opinion but what you said might have been hurtful but I would have said it to my fi considering the circumstances.  You said I don't care what weekend except..... Oct. 31st! What is so hard about picking another weekend? haha I'm sure he knows you said it out of frustration, if not just tell him.  I'm mad because you're leaving me hanging when we have things that need to get done. What I said was out of frustration not because I don't love you or that I don't want you to have a good time with the guys. Is there any chance the guys can reschedule? or can you try to move some things around so they can still go that weekend?I know sweetie, guys don't understand why we plan so things go smoothly.  Be patient with yourself and with fi.  Try to work something out together )

cmoffett205

Thanks ladies! I should stop being angry in the bedroom all alone and go talk to him. I appreciate the support :-)

FutureMrs.McC

I'm torn on this one.  Even though you didn't handle it in the best way, I would be livid!  I just got done telling my BFF that I hope I can make it down to see her kids on Halloween but since it's the weekend before we live, I'm not sure.  I can't even imagine thinking it would be ok to be gone the whole weekend.

SimplyMistaken

I have done that..and it sucks when you blurt something hurtful, but obviously it is coming from somewhere..I hope you went and talked it out and all is ok?