So my FI and I had seriously thought about eloping and discussed it with my family. At first they all agreed, but then one by one, they made comments about wanting to be there. So, in May at another family wedding, I had a serious discussion with my siblings and mother - they all said, that while they would support any decision we made, they really wanted to be there. I explained that we were doing a DW, they were fine with that.So, we start to plan and try to figure it all out - we go to Grand Cayman, decide it was going to be too expensive. Then we went to Mexico last weekend, loved the place we found, got a really good quote on the resort and report back. We decided on an all-inclusive, so it was a bit expensive on the face of it, but when you broke it down, it was reasonable, IMO. We spent a lot of time and money trying to find someplace that was appropriate for my family.Now, one sister has 3 kids and the other 2, so the plane tickets added up, which we realized. FI and I had done long distance for 2.5 years, so we have ALOT of frequent flier miles, which we planned to drain to help out my family. (He only has parents and one sister who was going to come solo, so my family was the only problem).So, I tell our TA that we are going to do this, I start looking at the boards to make my OOT list, look at the dress that I have been waiting to order, etc. knowing that doing this was probably jinxing everything.Well, fast forward to today. My sister calls and I think it's to discuss the pregame. After a few mintues, she says, about Mexico, I've looked at the numbers again. Basically she and my other sister both apparently had no idea that it would be so much to go to our wedding. This is the same sister who told me in July that she would spend $4000 in plane tickets to go to Hawaii. So, I start crying and then she starts crying. I'm just frustrated. I completely understand why they cannot come to the wedding, but it's just so frustrating when we have spent so much time and money trying to make things reaonable for everyone. FI and I were also thinking of getting married this month, but because everyone wanted to be there, we changed our plans.I know that many people on this board say to just plan what you want and be prepared for no one or anyone to come. I guess it was just different because everyone wanted to come and I thought I had figured out a way for that to happen. My sister told me that if we wanted them there, they would come. But really, that's not an option now.So, I guess I am just sad. I went from wanting to elope to really liking the idea of having my Mom walk me down the aisle and spending time with my family at the wedding. We had thought of getting married somewhere on the East Coast of the US, but it really is not the wedding that I want and I know that I would regret doing something like that to please everyone else.So sorry this is so long! Just had to vent - I have a great family and it means so much to me that they wanted to be there, I just wish I knew they wouldn't be able to come months ago.