Sad revelation

autzen1024

I really don't think we will be able to afford a wedding until 2012!!!!!!!!!! There is just NO way that we will be able to afford even a 3k wedding. I want to be out of debt aside from our car and house before we get married and now fi is looking for a new job. It's great, but along with getting a new job comes a smaller pay scale. In the long run it will be all worth it. I know many of you are doing the wedding on your own, we are as well. I think I have to much pride to ask my dad, the only person who could help. But I feel like if he wanted to help he would have already offered. So along with realizing that we will have to push our wedding back another year, I have been starting to think about just going to the JOP or not a DW. I'm not really sure I am posting this, but I think it's because I know some of you might understand how I am feeling. BAH!

kreeves42

*Hugs* to you! It will all work out how it is supposed to in the end. What about eloping somewhere, just the two of you?

SandalGirl

Holly - it really comes down to what YOU want - Do you just want to be married to your soulmate now,without having to wait and save, or do you want the walk down the aisle in the dress, etc.  If you want to be married more, then go do JOP... you will be a Mrs to your soulmate.  But if the wedding is what you want, then it will get here. I'm so sorry you guys are going through this - just remember, you have your soul mate - and lots of girls are still looking for hers.   Sending big hugs!!!

carrieoz_76

I'm sorry.  I know how you feel.  We didn't think about marriage until I was totally outta the credit card debt woods (FI was never in them.  Psh.).  We're also not having to take on debt for the wedding b/c my parents are being really generous (I think they just want me married off finally ).  But if we were paying, we'd probably have to have done a muuuuuch smaller wedding and a BBQ AHR, or postponed like you.  It really will be ok if you do postpone - in a few years, you'll be glad you got everything paid off before you got married, and that you didn't start your marriage with buckets of debt.

melissaandjaredforever

Aw I'm sorry you have this decision to make. I know what you mean about $ being tight. Like above, it all comes down to what is important to you. Im sure it will all work out for you. Good luck and let us know if you need anything.

Mistym05

:::hugs:::: I know how bad it stinks to have to push your wedding back, but if that is what is best...follow your heart on this one. We are paying for everything ourselves, set a budget and the closer we get the more the little things we didn't "budget" are coming up and its kind of fusterating. Just know it is your day, do what you want. Maybe marry by a JOP now and do a DW vow renewal when you can affford it. No matter what you decide to do, you will get to marry the love of your life and that will be well worth it! GL hun!

MsSunshine

I know exactly how you feel {hugs}because that's what we are probably going to end up doing too! You are definitely not alone. You never know, your wedding can be back on track