DW Bridesmaid dresses

TerriHugg

Ok, I need some suggestions. My wedding colors are shades of purple. For some reason, my MOH keeps telling me that she hates the way she looks in purple and she just hates the color. But purples are my wedding colors. I'm trying to find away to make her comfortable in the dress color. Any suggestions?

Am I really supposed to change the colors because my MOH doesn't like the way she looks in it? 

Am I wrong for not wanting to change her color? Of course, I want her to be comfortable though. I can't really think of another option but changing the color for her. 

Pjsgal

Ummmm I wouldn't change it !!!

TerriHugg

This whole situation is so frustrating. I hate the thought of my bridesmaids not being happy. But I just don't want to sacrifice my colors. Maybe, I'm being selfish.

rach2686

I don't think you should have to change your colors. I have never liked a bridesmaid dress but since it wasn't my day, I just put it on and kept my mouth shut. I'm all for them being comfortable, but I think it only goes so far.

jtoly

I hated a dress my best fried picked out for her wedding but I wore it and never said a word. My sisters wedding is next month and her pick was purple too. She went the light purple route, more lilac or lavender. Do you want dark purple or light, would that matter to her? I don't think you should change your color for her but maybe if really bothers you have a couple girls wear dark purple and others wear light. That's just an option but I think you should be able to have what you like!

TerriHugg

Thanks for the opinions girls. I tend to agree. I was in my cousins wedding last year. Even though I hated the bridemaid dresses, I told her I liked it even though I thought it was hideous. I didn't want to stress her out. But I do remember how frustrating it was to pay for a dress that I hated. 

That's why I had conflicted feelings about my MOH dress. I want her to be happy especially if she is paying for it.

TerriHugg

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[QUOTE]I hated a dress my best fried picked out for her wedding but I wore it and never said a word. My sisters wedding is next month and her pick was purple too. She went the light purple route, more lilac or lavender. Do you want dark purple or light, would that matter to her? I don't think you should change your color for her but maybe if really bothers you have a couple girls wear dark purple and others wear light. That's just an option but I think you should be able to have what you like!
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</div><div>I tried going all the different shades routes. She doesn't like any shade of purple at all! So I'm just at a loss. I want to tell her to just suck it up but I don't want to be mean.

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harr0610

Do you have an "accent" color (like purple and pink, or purple and black) or somethin? If so,  maybe the MOH can get a dress in that color? Or a slightly different shade of purple than the BMs (like a lavender)?

If you're just doing purple and she isn't willing to budge at all,,,,,I'd probably tell her to suck it up lol.

gummibear2013

she should be willing to make that sacrifice for one day your wedding your colors.  i don' t believe you are being selfish. yes, we want them to be happy as our bridesmaids but we need to be happy brides as well.  I was in my sister's wedding and they were the worst dresses and colors ever but we had to endure for her special day.

saric83

Yeah....she's being kind of a brat.  It's one thing to pick a dress that physically makes someone uncomfortable or is out of their price range, but her just deciding that she hates every shade of purple is obnoxious.  I would either tell her that you're definitely doing purple, but if she would like, she has until blah blah date to pick the shade.  Otherwise, you'll let the other girls pick.  That might motivate her to make a decision or realize that she needs to let it go. 

The only other thought is to let each girl pick any purple dress they want.  Then you don't have to talk about shades or anything with her!  It's just as simple as, "get a purple dress before the day of the wedding." 

Good luck!

stefwells23

I think it`s really important for anyone in your wedding to be able to put their personal ominions to themselves. I have been in a few weddings, and most of the dresses were not my taste at all. I was just happy to be a part of the day, and wore it without complaint. That is how it works as someone in the bridal party, you must support the bride and her decisions.

HappyMaddie

I was going to suggest the accent colour also (if you have one) then the best man can wear a tie or shirt to watch her. If you don't have an accent colour tell her it important to you that the ladies all wear purple! Seriously we have all worn horrible BM dresses - my worst was my sisters wedding it was a shiny brown strapless short dress with a bubble hem and had a tiny bit of green when the shiny would hit the light! *shudder* I never said anything to her and I donated to goodwill ASAP. People should be flexible, I hope this doesn't cause you too much stress!

jacquiroxx

I think you should stay steady on the colour, but maybe let her choose a dress that she likes.  So say, "It needs to be x shade of purple, but you can choose the style."  That way she's at least comfortable in the style she chose.

TerriHugg

Thanks so much for all your opinions. BAsically, I'm having all the girls wear different dresses in different shades of purple, but sorta keeping it uniform. I did this just so the girls are comfortable and get a dress that definitely looks good on them and they're comfortable with. 

I've gone to so many stores with MOH and have had her try on so many different shades in different styles and she just keeps saying she doesn't like any shade of purple at all. 

I guess I could go with the accent color of silver. but I'm afraid the dresses won't be as uniform if everyone is wearing shades of purple and she's wearing silver. 

It's just really stressing me out cause I want her to be happy. I really wish she would just suck it up for me and wear some shade of purple. 

ehlerss

I wouldn't change it. It is your wedding and you do what you want. 

jtoly

Ya I don't think I would change the color either. Silver does look nice with purple but the point is, your the bride and you get to pick the colors!