AHR stress

Sp2012

Hi ladies!  I thought this whole AHR would be easy since we're planning on keeping it simple.  We are having a Chinese banquet dinner and cake, we'll provide wine and soda.  The restaurant has a bar.

Kids - after going back & forth we decided on WP kids only plus their sibs, so this will be 2 WP boys and their 1yo sis and our flower girl with her 6mo brother.  (One WP boy lives out of town so will not be attending) their parents of course - who were also in our WP.  We probably do have space to accomodate all guests kids but this was a sticking point with my parents who are hosting. Looking through the etiquette board it seems this is a perfectly fine line to draw, but I still feel guilty.  We invited kids to the Hawaii wedding.

Seating - due to family dispute it's been suggested to me to consider doing seating chart/cards so that these members are seated at different tables.  Well, so far one family has not yet RSVP'd, so maybe I'll be saved.  But no I am not looking forward to doing this again.

Favors - just had somebody ask me if I was doing favors?  I wasn't planning on it but I guess we could - we got Honolulu Cookie Co shortbread cookies but honestly I was disappointed.  There's a little Japanese market near us which sells amazing shortbread macadamia chocolate dipped cookies which are out of this world and unfortunately HCC did not compare. 

Any suggestions or comments on these?

Life was good after the wedding, but I gotta say it's going to be even better once AHR is done!

kimmykupcakes

Why don't your parents want to have all of the children there? It they are hosting they can call the shots on which children are invited.

Do you have to do a seating chart? Would the family members that don't get along sit at the same table? If I don't like someone, I don't sit at the same table as them.

You don't have to have favors for the AHR.

Sp2012

I agree, my parents as hosts have the final say on things.  Luckily we can easily talk about these topics and they are open to discussion.

The offer to invite all kids was never on the table, and my parents talked about inviting family X's kids but not family Y's kids.  And for weird reasons - well Y's kids are picky about what they eat and probably won't want chinese food, for example.  So basically they were offering up various permutations of picking and choosing some kids but excluding others which is bad etiquette.  So it seemed the only agreeable thing to do was invite WP kids only which would satisfy the necessary kid invitations.

As for the seating chart, I totally agree, people can choose their tables and sit next to whomever they want or don't want. 

Thanks!

kimmykupcakes

No problem. Now stop stressing yourself out over this and try to enjoy it.