Here you go....
After Saturday and the whole Drew should go camping next weekend thing, I really wasn’t feeling going to the shower. But, I still went. The shower was held at a friend of Drew’s mom. I was glad about that because it meant not having to go to his parent’s house. The house it was at was actually pretty cool and had a nice view of the river.
I get there and it’s mostly people that I don’t know. Drew’s mom has name tags for everyone saying what their name is, who they are and how they are connected to her. Very important to know how it’s about her. My name tag had my name as Kim which I don’t use and just said bride-to-be. My BFF/MOH’s name was misspelled on her name tag. I was wearing a vintage dress and didn’t want to put the name tag on it, so I put it on the rainbow lei we were all given to wear.
I could tell the food menu was crafted by the friend. Drew’s mom isn’t so great at the cooking and usually opts food that’s pre-made. This was all homemade and looked really good. However, Drew’s mom neglects to inform her that I’m allergic to nightshades. Almost everything had nightshades in it. The only thing I was able to eat was some chicken pieces and some fruit. There wasn’t any cake or cupcakes which Amanda and Drew were disappointed by when I came home empty handed. There were cupcakes at both of my other showers so they were hoping for more. Not a big deal, just hadn’t ever been to a shower before that didn’t have cake or cupcakes. At least, I didn’t have a hard time not eating Paleo, but I was pretty hungry by the time we left.
Drew’s mom had everyone come into the living room and went around in the circle saying who everyone was and how they were connected to her. Then she told everyone they were to all go up and talk to me. It was kind of embarrassing.
Even though she made a huge stink about Drew not coming to the shower, others didn’t really seem to care. A couple asked me where he was and when I explained he was at home trying to finish the yard and doing other house projects that we needed to have done by the AHR everyone of them seemed very understanding. A lot of ppl didn’t even ask about him.
I was talking to one woman who was a cousin of Drew’s mom. She was asking me questions about how house and told me that she was always getting updates on what we’ve been doing on the house and all the help that Drew’s mom has given us helping us re-model. Wait, what? His mom helps us re-model? That’s news to me. She hasn’t lifted a single finger to help us do anything in our house. She just adds more stress by always trying to get Drew to not work on the house and tells us we have tons of time to get everything done. We have 2 weekends before we leave and 4 when we get back. Yeah, tons of time. And we aren’t remodeling our house, we are restoring it. Big difference. I was shocked by what I heard, but just smiled, nodded and replied that Drew and I had been spending tons of time working on the house.
I made my rounds with everyone else. It was a lot of meeting new people and saying how Drew and I met, our plans for the future, etc. Most I will probably never see, again.
Then came time to open presents. I was directed to the couch and my BFF/MOH and mom sat next to me. Well, that was until Drew’s mom made my BFF move so she could sit there. Rude!
It’s for sure unusual unwrapping gifts from a bunch of people you don’t know and in front of them. Actually, it was really uncomfortable. I’d read the card and then I’d have to scan faces and name tags as quickly as possible to see if I recognized who the card matched up with. Most of it was cards with cash in it since Drew’s mom arranged for everyone to all go in on getting us the Hawaiian quilt we wanted for our bed. Some people also brought other gifts to go with their contribution.
Now the thought was nice to have everyone pitch in on that. They aren’t cheap. But, she took the money out of the cards and counted it while sitting next to me. I thought that was really weird. Then she told me how much it was. It just made me uncomfortable. When I get money as gifts, I never count it in front of others. Instead, I take it home and see how much it is in the previously of my own home.
It could have been a lot worse. Thankfully there weren’t any games. But, there was still some weird, inappropriate and uncomfortable stuff.