Would this bother you?

jtoly

Every year my sister and her friends ( i know most of them) go to the beach (4hrs from us) to a time share so it's pretty cheap for her. This year they decided to make their trip early for her bachelorette party week. I'm the only person in her wedding and her sister and nobody asked me if I wanted to go or even if I was planning anything. I'm kinda disappointed. I prob wouldn't go for a whole week but perhaps just a long weekend. She mentioned today that one of the girls bought a bunch of bachelorette items for when they go out down there. I didn't say anything cause I didn't want her to feel bad. Would this bother you?

ehlerss

I would definitely be hurt that they didn't even include you.  You are her sister for crying outloud.  Maybe if you feel comfortable talk to the friend who is planning it and say I had these ideas maybe we could try and combine forces so that your sister can have an amazing bachelorette party.  Sorry they are butt heads.

bridechan

Yes this would bother me! Are you your sister's MOH? Isn't the bachelorette party a MOH responsibility? If you're not MOH is MOH going? Could you talk to her? You have every right to feel a little left out if it's a wedding related event and you're part of the wedding and not invited. Not cool to assume you just wouldn't go.

Julyet06

that is crazy!!!  I would definitely be bothered/hurt by this!!!  Just the fact that you KNOW her friends, let alone you are the SISTER and the only person in the wedding party??  Someone should have reached out to you to include you...you found out by your sis telling you about it? If so, that's just wrong :-(

 I'd probably seek out one of her friends and tell them how you feel and that you wish someone would have thought to include you sooner.  I'd only mention it to my sis if I wasn't able to reach any of the friends to discuss it with them and to let her know how I found out (late) but that I am definitely going to make it for the weekend if not the whole week.  Hopefully you can reach one of the friends and hash it out so that there are no hard feelings during that weekend.

kimmykupcakes

This is BS! Do talk to one of her friends. You should be planning this, as the MOH, not someone who isn't even a part of the wedding party. Obviously, I'm bothered by this. 

jtoly

Ya I'm the MOH and when I asked her what she wanted to do she mentioned a trip to the wineries as a Bachleor/Bachleorette party so I thought that's what everyone was doing. She said her friends will prob go to that too.

11beck

Ugh, yes I think you should be upset.  You're the MOH and wasn't told anything about it?  That's just rude.  I'd ask the friends if you know them  well or maybe your sister. 

nicolej518

Agree with it all!!!