So my FI and I are planning to elope to Maui and get married on February 7th which is his Grandmother's 99th Birthday. We have not told anyone in our families that we are planning to get married while in Hawaii. On Christmas day he was talking to his aunt and she said she is thinking she might take his Grandmother to Hawaii for her Birthday.
I would love to have them there but we purposely did not tell our families because most of them could not afford to come and we didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. So now I think that if they come I will miss my family not being there more.
Does that make sense?