Knottie vibes and aggravated

jtoly

Please send some knottie vibes to DH. He is getting a biopsy today for thyroid cancer. It runs in the family and they did an ultrasound last week and found 4 goiters. I hope it's nothing.

Also, my sister txt me last night that her FMIL wanted to know why her friends didn't get an invite to my sisters shower. My sister didn't want to invite them because she doesn't know them and was trying to keep the list down for me since I'm the only one paying for it. Well the FMIL was pissed so I have to invite 10 more people. That's an extra $120 for me. I also only bought enough leis, favors, and centerpieces for 40 people which is how many we sent invites to, 2 weeks ago. It's not my sisters fault so I'm not mad at her but maybe the FMIL would like to help me pay for this!!!!!

bbuckner984

vibes for your H- hope it turns out to be nothing.

Ugh about your sis's FMIL. I don't get why people the bride does not know are supposed to be invited to the shower. My Grandmother wanted to invite all her friends bc "I would get better gifts." I put my foot down bc I didn't want to have to be all plasticy to some women I didn't know.

Maybe somehow get ahold of this woman and ask if she would like to co-host? If not- Explain that you had already purchased most of the shower supplies and the budget is set.

Julyet06

Oh Jenn!  Lots of vibes for your DH!!

re your sister's FMIL- that is not cool!  the least she could do was ask who's hosting and see if it would be okay to contact the host regarding these types of questions.  If I was going to be so forward as to invite some people the bride doesn't know to the shower, I would at least have offered to put in financially for the extras!

jtoly

Her FMIL actually called me to respond this week and never mentioned Anything to me.

minionlover

I hope everything come back ok. Knottie Vibes to you and hubby!!

As for the aggravation - Your sisters FMIL has some nerve to make you invite att of these extra people.  Did you talk to your sister about it or is everything a surprise?  I think that I would have told her FMIL that you only budgeted for the guest list that your sister gave you.  I hope everything works out.

BMcLeodTeam

Sending tons of vibes for DH and his health!

I would say something to FMIL if it were me lol

jtoly

The FMIL actually called her son to ask why these people didn't get invitations. He then asked my sister so she is the one that called me. She isn't happy about it at all but she told her that I would send them. I guess she doesn't want to cause problems but if it was me I would simply tell her no.

stefwells23

Sending knottie vibes to you and your DH!!!
Wow - what nerve!? I personally don't want anyone I don't know at mine, and would be really upset if my FMIL just decided to take it upon herself to invite her friends. The added cost to you is a big deal, and she needs to know that you can't carry all the costs. I would definitely call her.... mention to her that there are costs for each person to come and you had a budget for the list your sister gave you. If she wants to invite more people, she needs to cover their costs!
I hope it works out for you, fingers crossed...

kimmykupcakes

Good Luck to DH.

I would tell the monster-in-law that she  has to pay for the additional guests and if she doesn't want to then they don't need to come. It's BS and I'm tired of this childish behavior that monster-in-laws think that they can pull.

harr0610

Major knottie vibes to your H. And I'm so sorry about the shower situaton. Sounds like a lot of stress you don't need right now.

jtoly

Thanks for the knottie vibes. DH is sore and we will find out the results hopefully by Wednesday. I hope it's nothing major. As I do the labels, for my sister, for her wedding, I realize she isn't inviting our step-brother. Yes, we never see him and probably have only seen him 5 times since we became related 15 years ago BUT if her FMIL can invite HER friends that my sister doesn't know then our step-brother should be invited. My sister has to keep her guest count low, they don't have a lot of money due to a lot of things that happened but family is family and the monster in laws friends are not family!