Please help me not be a bridezilla (Vent)

niknik15

My mom's family is driving me insane. To start, we have a total of about 100 people going to our wedding. 40 are getting off the boat before we set sail, 24 of those 40 are just my mom's side of the family. No one from her side of the family except for my grandma is going on the cruise. This is from my aunt "A" telling everyone on that side of the family that they shouldn't go on the cruise and that they should just go to the wedding and get off the boat.

We are one room away from getting a free berth ($800) and my grandma decided she was going to book with her travel agent rather than ours, so we aren't going to get the extra money. She is also staying in a different city rather than with everyone else because she doesn't want to stay at a 'cheap' hotel.

My mom asked me the other day if it was necessary for them to get on the boat at ten because she wants to go to church beforehand. My little brother and sister are in the wedding and I really want to spend time with them, especially since they aren't going on the cruise.

Every time I talk to my grandma, she tells me 'I wish you would let so and so get on the boat just for the wedding.' Talking about people I haven't seen in over ten years.

Then last night my aunt "A" texted me telling me about an Astros game the night before the cruise and telling me that we should invite all of the guests to go to it. I told her no because we don't want to ask anything else from our guests since they are already spending so much money to go on the cruise. Then she texted me again saying we could get a group rate on the tickets and she really wants to spend time with us at the game. I really wanted to go off on her and tell her that if you want to spend time with us you should go on the cruise like everyone else.

This weekend we are driving over 20 hours to go to my cousin's wedding on that side of the family just so I can film the entire thing. And I am going to have to deal with my entire family on my mom's side which I am not looking forward to one bit. And I'm sure my grandma will tell the guests that she 'wishes' I would invite to come ask me if they can get on just for the wedding.

If you got this far, thanks for reading. You definitely deserve a drink! Any helpful suggestions on how to get through this weekend and how to deal with grandma, aunt "A", and mom? I just want to tell them all to eff off and none of the people on my mom's side can come, but I don't think that would be a good choice.

niknik15

My grandma already booked and I know she won't go back and change it. She didn't like that our travel agent didn't call her back until I called the travel agent telling her to call her. I swear every one on my mom's side of the family is so immature!

loramarie03

Yikes, that doesn’t sound fun! I think you should tell your mom that you don’t think there will be time for church in the morning and leave it at that. You are the bride so you set the schedule for the day.

 

As for your Aunt A, I agree with Cathy… let her know that it’s a good idea and that you give her your blessing to organize it with the people that she chooses but that you guys most likely won’t be able to make it because you have a lot of stuff to get done for the wedding that night or something.

 

If your grandma tells people to ask you about coming to the wedding, just say I’m so sorry, I hope you understand but we have reached capacity as we are choosing to do an intimate wedding and unfortunately are unable to let others join or something like that.

BMcLeodTeam

Definitely not Bridezilla, I would be livid if I were you, especially when she wanted you to get your guests to spend more money to go just because she wants to spend time with you and doesn't want to go on the cruise!

Lindz619

Completly understand. My uncle started drama (i had none until recently) becuase "its not wedding planning if you aren't pulling your hair out". PLEASE, when your children get married you had better watch it because I'm going to be the biggest PITA there is.

BttrSkoch0604

I don't hear one tiny bit of Bridezilla in you AT ALL!  You have the right to invite or not invite whoever you want!  FI's friend took it upon himself to tell me that I had to contact him before we set the date so he could make sure that day worked for him.  His other friend tried to convince me to get married in Georgia (because he wants to take his girlfriend there).  I finally just started saying, "Yea, that sounds like a great idea!"  But really it's going in one ear and out the other. 

Good Luck!

jtoly

Oh nik, sorry this is happening. Your def not bridezilla but you def have a reason to be upset/mad. I would be really mad about loosing out on the free room. Maybe someone will surprise you and book!